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Are You Jealous of Your Child or Children?

As parents, we may think of jealousy as something we have to manage in our personal lives, or one of those green-eyed problems to teach our children about. We cope with sibling rivalry, co-worker rivalries, and other forms of jealousy but we might not think about whether or not we are actually jealous of our own children and whether that is affecting our family dynamics or not. I try to teach my children (and remind myself) the difference between envy and jealousy. As I simplify it for my kids, “envy” is when we want something that someone else has and … Continue reading →

Do You Have Criteria for Dating?

Recently in one of my articles, I read a comment from JadeWalker (a very devoted reader) about one of her questions that she used to ask men when she was dating. She questioned them about their current relationship with ex girlfriends. She prefers men who are mature enough to handle a friendship or at least a civil relationship with exs. After reading this comment I began thinking about certain criteria that we have for dating and for marriage. To be honest, I really do not think that I had any. I had standards for wanting a nice guy. I would … Continue reading →

When Jealousy is a Concern

In my recent jealousy series I have given my thoughts and opinions about jealousy. I have listed some reasons why I feel that some people are jealous. I have even discussed why I feel that jealous to some extent is normal and okay. In the articles listed above it may appear that jealous is a positive feeling. In this article, I will address the negative side of being jealous. While I still feel that jealousy in moderation is not harmful, when taken to extreme jealousy can have a very negative impact on a relationship. A continuous feeling of jealousy is … Continue reading →

Thoughts on Jealousy

Ask and you shall receive. In a previous article, I discussed the different feelings that may occur when one runs into an ex boyfriend or girlfriend. In the comments section, a reader posted that she was still very close to her ex boyfriend. Now that they are both in new relationships, the couples meet and visit together. I along with another reader responded that we would likely be too jealous to have our boyfriends or husbands hang out with an ex. In the comments, JadeWalker questioned the jealousy. She even suggested that it might be a good topic for an … Continue reading →

Jealousy and the Single Parent

Oh jealousy…that little green monster that can do so much damage! As a single parent, we might have more than our fair share of opportunities to wrestle with jealousy—and when we give into jealousy, it seldom turns out well! We might be jealous of our ex, or our child’s other parent; we might feel jealous of friends or family members who seem to have it better than us; an ex’s new partner; a coworker or the neighbor across the street. There are ample ordinary life situations that might be exacerbated by the fact that we have been through the crisis … Continue reading →

Health and Spirituality

How does having the spirit with you affect your health, and how does your health affect your ability to feel the spirit? In a Sunday school class I recently received a list of things that indicate whether or not you are feeling the spirit. I have edited the list to be slightly shorter than the original. This list is by Elder Marvin J Ashton. It reads: When you have the Spirit You feel in control, you don’t over-eat or over-sleep; you don’t feel uncontrollable passions or desires or lose your temper. You don’t feel uncontrollably drawn to sensational entertainment. You … Continue reading →

It is Okay to be Jealous

Jealousy has been a hot topic in my last couple of articles. I have given my thoughts in general on jealousy. I have also talked about the different reasons why people may be jealous. In this article, I will discuss why I feel that jealousy is not always bad. I believe that it is okay to be jealous. Jealousy, the green eyed monster, can be very harmful and hurtful to a relationship. Just like many other things, when taken to the extreme jealousy can ruin a good partnership. However, having a small feeling of jealousy every now and then is … Continue reading →

Why are We Jealous?

My last article gave some of my thoughts on jealousy. The topic of jealousy came about from an article that I wrote discussing running into an ex boyfriend or an ex girlfriend. One of my readers commented that she is still very close to her ex boyfriend and that her current boyfriend has no problem with the friendship. In my last article, I commented that I do not believe that jealousy is always tied to mistrust. I feel that a small amount of jealousy is in our human nature. Jealousy begins well before any intimate relationships. There is much more … Continue reading →