Is Being a Homemaker as Important as Working Outside the Home?by Ariala | More from this Blogger 30 Dec 2005 06:04 PM For many housewives across the country, staying home and working is a dream come true. Those who have children and are able to stay home and work find that it's more rewarding, and much more convenient for maintaining the home and family. Yet, for others, being a homemaker sometimes robs them of their self-esteem. Homemakers play an important role in the family. The husband may be the primary breadwinner and provider, but the woman who stays home is the primary provider of the emotional care and atmosphere of the home. She is usually the one to instill in her children the values and foundation that create a healthy, balanced child. Fathers can even be the homemakers. Stay home dads are more common these days, and do as good of a job as stay home moms. Whoever the primary breadwinner is in the home, it's important for that person to respect the homemaker. There's a lot to be said for someone who is able to raise kids, clean, cook and still put on a cheerful face and love what they're doing all along the way. If you happen to be a homemaker who struggles to feel good about your role, you're not alone. Many struggle with feelings of inadequacy, feeling left out from the fast pace life of the corporate world, and feeling insecure. Here are some simple things to practice if you fit this category: 1. Positive affirmations are important. Write down three things that make you proud of being a homemaker. 2. Stay up on what's going on with your spouse's work, the outside world, and whenever possible go out with friends who are both homemakers and those who work outside the home. 3. Take up a hobby and come up with ways of making money working from home. Maybe you can finally start that home-based business you've always dreamed of starting. 4. If you have extra time, and the kids are in school, maybe you can take a class at a community college or volunteer in the community. Just remember that being a homemaker is a wonderful gift and chance to be all you can be in a comfortable setting, with you as your own boss. Relevantmarriage tags User Comments rebeccahomemaker (12) 01 Aug 2006 03:28 PMDear readers, dear Ariala, I fully agree with your article and I like the way you express your views about it. I have seen both sides of working outside the home and working at home. As my daughter was little, we had a shop, and I worked full time. As my son was 1 1/2 I decided to stay at home, and I have never been so happy and fullfilled. I see the problem still about feeling good about my role. When poeple(especially very active and succesfull women OUTSIDE the home) ask what I do, then somehow "just" being at home seems a bit bleak to answer. I find myself giving excuses, although I know I am dong what I love most. I believe that for may women the feeling of low self esteem by being at home comes from the value that the society is giving being at home. I find it wonderful that we can work together to redefine the value of housewifes. especially important is what you said about the children, that you make a safe place for them, that you make a home! That is why we are claled home makers. We make a home, and a home is a place where it feels good to be, where there is joy and peace and room for everybody. And the blessing about being at home is to have enough time to attend to the children yourself, to go to that assembly, to bring them(peacefully) to this and that activity, to cook for them with joy. I believe it is one of the most important jobs in the world! Rebecca Community Tags IT IS AS IMPORTANT AS WORKING OU, YES Discuss this article
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