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The Night Owl and the Early Bird

My husband likes to go to bed at nine. I’m up until two. He likes to get up while it’s still dark out and go for a walk. I like to stay in bed until nine, snuggly warm in my covers. He feels most energetic around six in the morning. I feel most energetic around four in the afternoon. If you could make a chart of all the ways in which we are exactly opposite, it would be quite the sizeable chart. Good thing opposites attract, huh? In talking with other couples, I’m learning that this isn’t so unusual. Human … Continue reading →

The Night Owl and the Early Bird

My husband likes to go to bed at nine. I’m up until two. He likes to get up while it’s still dark out and go for a walk. I like to stay in bed until nine, snuggly warm in my covers. He feels most energetic around six in the morning. I feel most energetic around four in the afternoon. If you could make a chart of all the ways in which we are exactly opposite, it would be quite the sizeable chart. Good thing opposites attract, huh? In talking with other couples, I’m learning that this isn’t so unusual. Human … Continue reading →

Intimacy and Desire in Marriage

Today I have something a bit different for the marriage blog. I have a book review Intimacy and Desire Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship by Dr David Schnarch Paperback $35.00 This book raises several interesting and, I dare to suggest, controversial issues. One of them is that lack of sexual desire doesn’t necessarily mean there is a problem in the marriage. This is certainly different to a lot of the popular view of the day and the impression we get from current movies and TV shows, which suggest that if you’re not have sex like rabbits there’s something drastically … Continue reading →

Love and Valentine’s Day

Still a few days to go and I have absolutely had it with Valentine’s Day and all the hype. Hasn’t it all got out of hand that Valentine’s Day is now such a major production? Everywhere you look are advertisements for buying lingerie and chocolates and jewelry and, and, and… the list goes on. But the ones that really annoy me most are the catalogues that keep arriving in multiples in our letter box suggesting men show their love by buying their wives or sweethearts a diamond ring. Well, I know one thing Mick won’t be buying me for Valentine’s … Continue reading →

Intimacy and Imagination in Marriage

When it comes to the letter I and marriage, probably the first one we think of after ‘I love you’ is Intimacy. Intimacy Mention intimacy and most people’s minds will immediately go to the sexual act since it is the most intimate relationship. Certainly sex is an important part of marriage and should be a pleasurable experience for both parties. In a good marriage it can be the time when we feel most at one with our spouse. It can be not so enjoyable if both of you are not happy with what happens. If your spouse is doing something … Continue reading →

Every Body is Different

Talking about sex isn’t always comfortable. We see sex as being a private thing between husband and wife, and that’s how it should be, but there are times when problems occur, and at those times, it can be appropriate to seek help. It seems to be expected that sex should be an enjoyable thing for both partners. However, for many people, it’s not. They may not have the physical reactions of pleasure that they would like to have during the act, and this can lead to resentment in the marriage. If one spouse is having all the fun, and the … Continue reading →

Depression- part 2

Yesterday we looked at dealing with depression and what you can do if your spouse is suffering from depression. Here are some more thoughts on the subject. Don’t be afraid to get professional help. Too often people can be embarrassed or made to feel they should be able to deal with things. This is especially true in Christian circles. There seems to be an idea that Christians should never suffer depression because they are Christian. That is not recognizing that depression is a medical condition, an illness that needs treating. So find a psychologist who can help you. If you … Continue reading →

Dealing with the Worrier- Part 2

Following on from yesterday, here are more suggestions about dealing with the worrier and tips how you can best help them. If you are a believer, pray for them. You don’t need to know exactly what the worries are to be able to pray for peace and settling. Better still if they are agreeable, is pray with them about their worrying. Again you don’t need to know what the worries are, unless they want to tell you. God knows. That’s all that matters. So encourage them to share if they want to but don’t hassle them if they don’t. Sometimes … Continue reading →

J is for…

When I think of the letter J, the first word that comes to mind is joy. Maybe that says something about me and tells you I am by nature optimistic. But joy is one of a few Js that should be an integral part of a marriage. Joy I hope you feel just as joyful today about being married to your spouse as you did the day you married them. If so, let them know what a joy they are to you. It can also mean joy in the little things – in doing simple everyday things but doing them … Continue reading →

Online Cupid Help for the Romantically Challenged

Unless you’ve been living in a cave somewhere in Afghanistan with the likes of Osama Bin Laden, you’re well aware Valentine’s Day is less than two days away. Some of you might be painfully aware of this date because you suffer from a condition known as RC (Romantically Challenged). Symptoms of RC include one or all of the following lacks: time, imagination, or money. Acute fear of disappointing is another indicator. Based on year’s past, you know you have a tendency to fail in the romantic gestures arena. You’re painfully aware that if you show up with yet another abysmal … Continue reading →