The Marriage Blog Week in Review for January 28 – February 3

Last week Lyn and I said goodbye to January and welcomed February. Here’s what we wrote on: Monday, January 28 Internet Infidelity Leads to Attempted Hit A married woman tried to use Craigslist to off her equally married lover…who she’d met online. Successful Serious Discussions with Your Mate Lyn offers suggestions for setting a positive tone for starting serious discussions. Proxy Marriages Only four states allow these types of marriages, which don’t require both parties even be in attendance to wed. Tuesday, January 29 Personalized Gifts to Delight Your Valentine Once again I was shopping the catalogs and found items … Continue reading

Internet Infidelity Leads to Attempted Hit

This morning while I was once again watching Today (yes, I’ve noticed I start off with this line a lot), they ran a story about a woman who used Craigslist to try and hire someone to kill her lover’s wife. Apparently 49-year-old Ann Marie Linscott is married and lives in the Grand Rapids, Michigan, area. She met her lover, who lives in Oroville, California, while taking a course over the Internet. They engaged in a cyber affair, but when she tired of being the other woman she got the bright idea to use Craigslist to change all that. That’s pretty … Continue reading

What You Might Not Have Known About Affairs

In my quest to find information about affairs and STDs I stumbled across “Infidelity: Myths, Facts and Healing,” an article by Ofer Zur, Ph.D. Dr. Zur discussed all manner of things related to affairs and presented some very interesting facts about them. Or at least I found them interesting. They were things I didn’t know. I listed my revelations below. 1. Finally! A concise definition of infidelity. Maybe Dr. Zur’s not the first to define it thusly, but of all the definitions I’ve read this one was most succinctly stated: “Infidelity is unfaithfulness to a sexual partner in an agreed … Continue reading

Which is Worse: An Emotional Affair or a Physical One?

Other than receiving news your spouse is dead (either because he or she was murdered, involved in a fatal car accident, or killed during some other tragedy) I can’t think of much worse news you could receive than to find out your spouse was unfaithful. But there are two kinds of affairs: physical ones and affairs of the heart. As I wrote in True Love Doesn’t Equal Perfect Love, if Wayne ever confessed to an affair I wouldn’t automatically start seeking legal services. I’d wait to figure out what kind of tryst he’d had. (Unless, of course, he told me … Continue reading