If You Could Do it Over, What Would You Do?

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16 Sep 2006 08:35 AM

If you could go back in time to before you were married, would you wait? Would you hurry? Would you give yourself and your spouse more time to get to know each other, to discuss important issues, to save money, wait until you were older, or to do anything else different?

I think I would have married sooner. I always used to tell my husband that I wished I'd met him earlier. I could have saved myself a lot of bad dates. He laughs and says we weren't ready for each other yet. Frankly, I do agree with him. I am a firm believer that things happen for a reason and that they happen in good time. There is always a reason for everything.

So, if you find yourself thinking you'd change things, stop and think about that for a minute. No matter how imperfect the timing might seem now, getting married to your husband or wife when you did has played a role in making both of you the people you are today.

You might have been very different if you rushed or even if you waited. You may or may not have had children. You might have purchased a different home. It is also possible that you might have moved to a distant location and missed meeting your spouse.

Everything we do affects many other aspects of our lives and the people in our lives. That's a good thing to keep in mind. Even if things aren't going so great right now, things might have been very different. While that may seem like a good thing as we struggle through troubled times, there's no guarantee that the differences would have good ones.

Instead of looking to the past, let's look to the future and make the most of the choices we've made and the relationships we have built.

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Sherry Holetzky is a work at home mom and freelance writer. Married to her best friend, Sherry and her husband are raising their family in a quiet rural setting in the beautiful Ozark Mountains.

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Kay M. (300) 16 Sep 2006 01:30 PM

If I could go back. What a concept. I think I would like to have known his family. We married while he was in the military and without meeting families. What a BIG mistake. Both his parents died before he was three years old so he was brought up by relatives. I had no idea how many bad habits he picked up from his uncle. My ex husband turned out to have deviant behaviors because of his upbringing. If I had a chance to change anything is a hard question. I love having my child. Interesting topic as usual. Thanks.

Sherry Holetzky (11404) 17 Sep 2006 08:05 AM

Good point, Kay; the old saying says you marry his family too. So true! Thanks for sharing.