Identifying Weeds in a Marriageby Dale Harcombe | More from this Blogger 03 Jun 2009 07:36 PM Yesterday we looked at a few deceptive weeds that can creep into a marriage by looking attractive at first. A lot depends on your definition of weed. You might have different ideas about what is a weed and what is not. Though other people might call them flowers, like snowball trees, snowdrops, or white jonquils to me they are weeds. In our garden anything that flowers white is a weed by my standards. Mick dutifully g digs them out, because he knows how I hate them. But some weeds easy to spot. Here, in no particular order, are some weeds that are not attractive but they still manage to creep into many marriages. Selfishness Always wanting your own way and not trying to please your spouse is another problem area that needs to be rooted out. Negativity Comments are always negative. Nothing is ever good enough or done right. A positive attitude and encouragement achieves far more. Sarcasm Sarcasm can tear some people's feelings to shreds and make them doubt their worth. This destructive form of humor should be kept out of marriage. Ridicule Jokes at your spouse's expense or ridicule of them are sure fire ways to get a marriage in trouble. Criticism Criticism is often a by product of negativity. Try saying positive things about and to your spouse instead, Independence and going your separate waysThere are times we all need our individually interests but their needs to be some you share with your spouse. Lack of common interests so often is a cause of break ups. Lack of communication How can you hope to keep a marriage vital, unless you keep the lines of communication open? It doesn't matter what you talk about but make time to talk together and especially talk out and resolve difficulties. Lack of physical contactThose who have physical contact whether it is making love, holding hands, kisses and cuddles regularly are more likely to be happier and less stressed. Surely that's what we all want in our marriages. LazinessI don't juts mean laziness like not picking up clothes or doing household chores but laziness in making sure you keep the marriage alive and well. Another word might be complacency. You might think of others that are weeds in marriage. If so, let me know. Is Your Marriage Being Overrun by Weeds? Learn more about Dale Harcombe  Dale has a passion for books and writing. She writes in various forms, from articles to poetry to fiction for children and adults. Relevantmarriage tags User Comments No comments on this article yet. Be the first to comment! Community Tags criticism, lack of communication, negativity, selfishness, weeds Discuss this article
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