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The Marriage Blog Week in Review for November 19 thru 25

Last week had the potential to be nuts. There was turkey to eat, football to watch, sales to shop, and family to enjoy (hopefully). In case you were too busy to fully enjoy the Marriage blog, enjoy this week’s Week in Review. It’s your handiest tool for catching up on everything Karri and I covered last week. Monday, November 19 My Husband’s Fascination with Cheaters I don’t know why he’s nuts about the TV show Cheaters, but he is. Tuesday, November 20 My Fascination with the Real Housewives of Orange County Wayne’s guilty indulgence is Cheaters, mine is Bravo’s Real … Continue reading →

Is the Second Divorce Easier Than the First?

There are many difficult things that we do in life that seemingly get easier each time that we do them. For example public speaking is usually a difficult and trying task the first time that it is done. However after several months of being in the public’s eye the speaking usually gets easier. In some cases, all it takes is proving to ourselves that we can do it and survive. After that some of the fear is taken out of the equation. I wonder if divorce is the same way? I have never been divorced. I have some friends that … Continue reading →

Thinking of the Other Parent as a Business Partner

One of the best morsels of advice I received when I was going through my divorce was to learn how to think of my ex-husband and my children’s partner as a co-parent or business partner in the task of raising our children. It freed me up to reorganize my thinking and focus on the fact that we would remain connected in the process of raising the children (even if on some levels, I would rather that weren’t the case). Thinking of the Ex as a “coworker” is a great way to create a functional working relationship while sharing in the … Continue reading →

Giving Our Children Better Language After Divorce

I remember when our family was first re-arranging itself after “the divorce”–my children were all in the upper elementary grades or in the beginning years of middle school. As I was so caught up in my own process of the legalities of the separation and divorce, the reality and the logistics, and all the other worries and grief of a newly-single parent, even though I tried to pay attention to what my kids were going through too–I wasn’t always perfect at it. One of the things I didn’t realize until my eldest daughter brought it to my attention, was that … Continue reading →

Are Your Trust Issues Holding You Back?

After a divorce it is natural to have a few trust issues. The person you put all of your trust in betrayed you and hurt you deeply. It is difficult to open yourself up to the possibility of that kind of pain again. You don’t want to feel vulnerable, and understandably so. Nobody expects you to rush into anything, so give yourself some time to deal with these trust issues now, so that they don’t continue to hold you back in the future. I’ve had a fair number of bad men in my life, as a result it has been … Continue reading →

Morality in America

Do you really want to know what you are dealing with, when it comes to raising children today? Have you considered the morality of America…where we came from, where we are at and where we are heading? A Gallup poll was recently conducted on “Values & Beliefs” in America. The findings will help you better understand just what you are up against when it comes to the raising of your children. This isn’t meant as a way to make judgments but simply to enlighten parents. And hopefully with this enlightenment, there will be conversations with your children about what you … Continue reading →

Less People Are Getting Married

Have you heard that marriage is on the decline? Not in the sense that they are ending in divorce (although, that is obviously still an issue) but that less people in America are embracing holy matrimony? Back in 1960, the percentage of adults married was at 72%. Currently it’s at 51% and according to new research, with the trend continuing this way, in just a few years it will fall below 50%. While marriage is declining, single person/parent homes and living together is increasing. We all have our own thoughts and opinions on this. My personal view is that marriage … Continue reading →

Dating Tips For Single Parents

Dating as a single mom can be a little daunting. For most of us, it’s been years since we went on a date with anyone other than a man who knew us well. I remember feeling like I didn’t even know how to behave on a date anymore! More and more single people are using online dating as a way to meet people. This can make dating even scarier, it’s one thing to go out to dinner with someone you know, even vaguely, but to go out with a complete strange can be a little intimidating. Here are a few … Continue reading →

Time to Take Stock

As we start a new year it is a good time to take stock. One area each of us needs to take stock is in our choices. Are the choices you are making hindering your marriage? Are you making the choice to put all your energies into work and career, so that you and your spouse have little time together? Recently I heard of a young couple who are expecting their second child. Yet the husband will not be around either for a while before, or when, the child is born. He has plans to be away for months with … Continue reading →

Sharing What’s Important

At Christmas time we see lots of people we don’t normally see. Because we live in a tourist area, we often see couples or families on holidays. We also see people brought along by other family members to church for special services, as we had yesterday. At times like these some women manage to convince their husbands who don’t normally attend, to come. Each week I see women at church on their own because their men won’t come. They aren’t interested. Others are on their own, because their family they have been victims of a family pulled apart by unfaithfulness … Continue reading →