Is Your Marriage Reaching Its Full Potential?

Is your Marriage Reaching Its full Potential? It’s a question we each might ask of our marriage. But what sort of qualities and attitudes will help ensure it does reach its full potential? It is interesting sometimes not only to see how otter marriages work but to read up on those things that help us get the best out of our marriages. On a site I was reading recently you can grade your marriage. Since I’m a great one for quizzes and the like I couldn’t help grading my marriage. And received a huge shock. I was shocked to find … Continue reading

Buying Gifts for Your Spouse

Since it’s coming up to Christmas, I thought it would be good to cover the subject of buying gifts for your spouse. Before you can go out and buy a gift it is much easier to start off with an idea in mind. Otherwise you are likely to spend a lot of time wandering around looking at things and coming home with nothing. Some families I know ask for suggestions of things the person would like. This is particularly helpful if they want a certain book and CD, so that you end up with the right title. It can also … Continue reading

When You Don’t Agree

Did you have fun with the quiz? Do you find out anything you didn’t know about your spouse? Sometimes a quiz can highlight areas where we are different. Many times it won’t matter if his favorite color is red and yours is blue, except maybe when it comes to decorating. If you want to paint a room a color he can’t live with or vice versa, then it could create problems you will have to work through. For example a man I knew years ago would not have any green in his house at all. He hated green. Another male … Continue reading

How Well Do You Know Your Spouse?

We all have individual likes and dislikes. Sometimes they are the things that make us the person we are. Try this fun quiz to see how much you really know about your spouse. Then get your spouse to answer the same questions about themselves? Swap over and see how much they know about you. Compare your answers. You might just find a few areas where you don’t know as much about your spouse as you thought. Also it might speak off a really interesting conversation. 1. What is your spouse’s favorite color? 2. What do they most enjoy doing? 3. … Continue reading

How Did You Do on the Marriage Quiz?

I hope you’ve all completed the quiz; you and your spouse before checking back to see the scoring and a few of my thoughts. Questions 1-3 The favorite color, movie and song should be basic things you know about your spouse. Give yourself 3 points for each one of these you got right. No extra points if it’s your special song. Scoring for both Q4 and Q5 a. 4 b. 5 c. 3 d. 2 e. 1 You’ll notice that always doesn’t get the top points, because no matter how close you are and how well you know each other, … Continue reading

Pictures of You

Is the picture of you from your mirror, the same as the picture of you that your spouse has? In other words what you see, is that what your spouse sees? I don’t mean the outside appearance but your positive and negative traits and qualities. Do we ever see ourselves, our good points and our faults objectively? Recently Mick and I were with another couple we know. Being a person who loves quizzes and personality tests and such, I tried out a 100 question quiz or brain system checklist with another couple. Each of them had to answer each question … Continue reading

How Facebook Could be Bad for Your Marriage

Facebook can be a great networking tool to keep in touch with current friends and re-establish contact with old ones. But there are several ways that Facebook could actually be bad for your marriage. Here are some examples. You Spend Too Much Time on It Facebook can be addicting. There are so many messages, status updates, photos, videos, games, quizzes and applications (what is a sea garden anyway?) to occupy your time. But if you would rather stay up with Facebook instead of go to bed with your spouse, it might be a problem. You Air Your Grievances It is … Continue reading

Dare to Dream

Do you know your spouse’s dream? Have you ever bothered to find out what they’d really like to do if they had the chance? If you do know are you supporting them and helping them to realize that dream? When Mick and I went and saw ‘The Bucket List’ one of the things that struck me was how Carter Chambers ended up having a list of things he dreamt of achieving before he died – a list his wife neither knew about nor understood. He’d been married to the same woman for many years and she apparently had no idea … Continue reading

Don’t Fight Fire with Fire

The argument starts innocently enough. One of you may have had a bad day or a bad morning and is grumbling about something. The other person walks into the room and becomes an immediate target. “Why can’t you ever remember to do such and such?!?” The other person on the defensive immediately snaps back, “Well, at least I’m not always doing this, that and the other thing!” The next instant you know, you are in a full-blown argument with issues being dragged up from every direction and point in time. This resulting argument is now blown so out of proportion … Continue reading

You Know Your Spouse Loves You When…

Elizabeth Barrett Browning once started off a sonnet with what has perhaps become a bit of a cliched saying: How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. Have you ever tried to count the ways you love your spouse? Once upon a blog I wrote about something Wayne did for me that showed me he loved me, and then Jade asked: But what do you do to show him? So I answered that with another blog. While that was sort of counting the ways he loves me and I love him, lately my heart’s been waxing romantic about … Continue reading