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Keeping Track Of Your Time

Your time is valuable. While you may have punched in using a time clock or signed in to work through a computer while you worked at your traditional job, things may be different now that you are working from home. There may be some home – based professionals who have a time clock in their home office just for fun, and they may punch in and punch out every time they go to work. I do not know of any, though, so I will share some helpful hints for keeping track of your time so that you can get paid … Continue reading →

Do You Interrupt Your Spouse?

“It was 1982, and we had just moved to California,” Joe begins. “We bought a house …” “It was 1983,” Betty interrupts. “It was right after your knee surgery.” “Okay, it was 1983. Anyway, we were going out to dinner at this great steak house …” “Actually, we were eating Italian,” Betty interrupts again. “Remember, that spaghetti was way overcooked.” “So, we’re at dinner, and my friend Bob said—” “We weren’t at dinner with Bob. It was Rex and Sue.” Have you ever heard something like this – one spouse is trying to tell a story, and the other keeps … Continue reading →

When Your Tastes Differ

One of the things that can be a problem when you are first married is combining different tastes in a household. Apparently others have recognized this can present a problem as they are intending making a show about it. As a person who abhors reality TV, I could think of nothing worse than watching it but I’m sure others won’t agree and will watch. But what can you do if you don’t like some of the stuff your loved ones brings with them? A lot depends on how important the items are to them and how attached they are to … Continue reading →

Average Length of Marriages

Mary Ann posed an interesting question on a recent article, about the average length of marriages these days. It’s hard to track down exact statistics as there are so many variables, but here are a few things I found will give an idea of the length of the average marriage. In the United Kingdom in 2003, out of 153490 divorces, 40,599 divorces occurred during the first 5-9 years time frame. The next biggest number was between 10-14 years 29,831 and 20,923 in the 15-19 years period. What is interesting is the number that ends up in divorce after only 0-2 … Continue reading →

The Marriage Quilt

Back in the 19th century it was a practice to have a wedding or marriage quilt. Apparently the bride-to-be had to make a number of quilts for everyday use and one special quilt which was the wedding quilt. These became part of her trousseau. Friends could gather and help with the quilts but the bride-to-be must make the wedding quilt herself and it must be finished before the wedding. All I can say is I’m glad that doesn’t happen any more. Otherwise this non crafty person, who couldn’t sew or make a quilt to save her life, would never have … Continue reading →

Landmark Marriage

Whether they are natural features like, The Grand Canyon, Uluru, or man made like The Eiffel Tower, the Golden Gate, The Sydney Opera House, we could all name various landmarks. Places that stand out for various reasons and are clearly identifiable with a certain place. Have you ever thought of your marriage that way? Landmark This is another that came from my married daughter. As you can tell we spend time talking about marriage, not just her and me but her husband and mine as well are often involved in marriage conversations, even more so since I started writing marriage … Continue reading →

Marriage is Like a Good Cup of Coffee

In a conversation with my married daughter recently, she came out with this gem about marriage. Marriage is like a good cup of coffee. Keep reading and you’ll see how. A prevalent idea around at present is that if it’s the right person, it will all come naturally and easily and without any effort being expended. I actually came across almost these exact words in a novel written by a young woman I read yesterday. There is the view that you won’t have to work hard to maintain the relationship. Again, that is reflected in many movies. We don’t see … Continue reading →

The Third Person in a Marriage

There’s a third person in our marriage. Maybe there is in yours too, as there is in several other marriages I know. No, it’s not a new addition and no, neither of us is having an affair. The third person and a central person in our marriage is God. Traditional marriage vows undertaken in a church usually include the minister or priest saying something along the lines of ‘being gathered here in the sight of God and in the face of this company – to join together this man and this woman in holy matrimony, which is commended to be … Continue reading →

Problems with Having Your Own Agenda

There is a problem with having your own agenda. Actually there are a couple. One is that your agenda and what you want to do or what to happen may not be God’s plan for you or for others. The other is just as serious and one that can be extremely hurtful and divisive. Recently there were two examples where this occurred. One was by me letting my own feelings cloud the issue and say something when deep down a little voice was telling me I should keep quiet. One of these days I might learn to listen all the … Continue reading →

What Can a Family Day Do for Your Marriage?

A family day can have positive benefits in a marriage. Let me tell you how. Yesterday we had a family get together. The excuse, not that we needed one, was partly a birthday but also Father’s Day. As our son and daughter live a few hours away and have other commitments on Sunday, Father’s Day was celebrated a day early. We had a family picnic and for once we managed to get a perfect day. Often when we plan picnics, the weather turns cold or windy, but yesterday was a magic spring day. The sun was smiling and so were … Continue reading →