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Maintaining A Relationship With Your Childs Grandparents

During a divorce getting through the day is a challenge sometimes. Trying to remember all the things you need to do while being solely responsible for your child can feel overwhelming. We talk to our friends about how we are feeling, we rant and cry and yell once in a while. We try to make sure our children are happy, feel secure, answer their questions all while trying to keep their lives and routines as normal as possible. We have so many new responsibilities and roles. We try very hard to be nice to an ex spouse who hasn’t always … Continue reading →

Declare Your Independence By Working At Home

There is something special about the month of July. Perhaps it is the spirit of Independence Day that keeps me feeling inspired all month long. Maybe it is the beautiful summer weather that allows me to enjoy my flexible home-based work schedule to the fullest. Perhaps it is both of these things that make me feel like July is a wonderful month to celebrate being a home-based professional. July is a wonderful time to celebrate freedom and independence. We live in a place where in large part, we have a great deal of freedom to be who we are and … Continue reading →

Don’t Lose Yourself When Baby Arrives

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When someone gets married, they can easily lose their own identity in their marriage. The same thing can happen after baby arrives. But, it doesn’t have to. Right now, while you are still pregnant and baby free, it’s a good time to do some self-reflection. Think about what makes you the person you are right now aside from growing another life inside you. What makes you happy? What is it that you love to do? Who are you? Keeping a journal is a good way to answer these questions. Spend an evening alone, and really ponder what has made your … Continue reading →

Your First Christmas without Your Loved One

This year, many people may be experiencing their first Christmas without a loved one. Whether it be a grandparent, a parent, a spouse, a sibling or a child, Christmas can be a bittersweet time for those who are mourning. Although the average person on the street will allow you to grieve and talk about your lost loved one for about 6-8 weeks on average, the reality is that it takes at least one full year to even begin to get over the death of a close family member or friend. That year contains all the anniversaries that must be gone … Continue reading →

Dealing with Depression

Depression is a serious problem in society. It is the most common of all metal health problems, yet it is one that is not talked about nearly as often as it should be. Statistics tell us one in five people will suffer from depression at some stage in their lives. You or your spouse or someone in your family could be a likely candidate for depression. So what can you do if your spouse or someone in your family suffers from depression? Firstly, you and your spouse or the person who has depression need to realize that depression in an … Continue reading →

Dealing With An Opinionated Spouse

Dealing with an opinionated spouse can present problems. No, I’m not married to one who is opinionated. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t have an opinion on things, but those things he does hold strong opinions about are not usually a problem as we tend to share those opinions. But I know people who are married to an opiniated spouse and it’s interesting to see how they deal with it. Largely I’ve observed that the one who is married to an opinionated spouse does one of several things. Some become so quiet; they hardly open their mouth in mixed company or … Continue reading →

Pregnancy and Relationships: Friends

An interesting phenomenon happens when a woman announces her pregnancy to her friends. Some will be genuinely excited. Some will experience heartbreak in the midst of infertility. Some will feel jealous if they have not yet reached the “baby stage” of life and would like to. Some may not feel much of anything. When a friend experiences anything other than genuine excitement, the potential for drama arises. Add some pregnancy hormones into the mix and you have recipe for disaster, but no relationship has to be doomed because there is a baby on the way. Pregnancy can cause heartbreak between … Continue reading →

The Way You Treat Your Spouse

The way you treat your spouse can affect more than your spouse. It could affect the next generation and even future generations. One marriage quote I like and can really see the sense of is ‘Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you,’ Robert Fulghum. And this one : ‘The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother,’ Theodore Hesburgh You and you spouse can influence each other’s character a little as you live together. It is even truer that as parents we can have a … Continue reading →

Is Your Marriage Being Overrun by Weeds?

Are there weeds in your marriage? Weeds that you really know you should do something about but which are, or have been, allowed to grow and spread? They can look attractive at first, but later turn out to be destructive. In our garden we have what I consider a pretty vine that gets amazing blue flowers. Mick’s attitude to it is very different and with good reason. When I look at the vine all I see it’s the vibrant blue of the flower. The problem is let go the vine takes over and tends to run riot, choking everything else. … Continue reading →

How To Deal With Hurt

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No matter how good our marriage or how loving a relationship we are in, we’ve all of us no doubt had times when we’ve been hurt by a comment or something our spouse has done. But what do we do about it? We cannot undo what was done or said. We can choose how we respond to it. Some people faced with a situation like this will withdraw or pull back from the person. After all they don’t want to be hurt again. They refuse to tell their spouse what the problem is and keep saying nothing’s wrong. But in … Continue reading →