How Much Support Would Your Mate be for You?

by Lyn Newton | More from this Blogger

03 May 2008 07:59 AM

When you take your marriages vows, you vow to love one another through better and through worse. The better part is always an easy one to uphold. However, many couples struggle when it comes to the worse clause.

Courtney had discussed in a previous article wives that stand by their husbands through scandals and such. She also talked about how they stand by their man devoted (at least in the public's eye).

There are also women and men who stand by one another through affairs and cheating.

Today I want to look at things from a little different perspective.

What other times of worse circumstances. These are times such as finical struggle, illnesses, and family crisis?

I would hope that there are not individuals out there who would not be supportive after discovering that their spouse has a terminal illness. However there are people out there who are just not good support systems.

There is also the cases such as Courtney is going through now with her mother.

There are car wrecks when people go through much mental, emotional, and physical trauma. There are the tragic deaths of loved one that leave us with great almost unbearable sorrow.

If something negative and hard to handle occurred in your life tight now, how much support would you have?

Would your spouse be willing or able to take off from work for a while to help out?

Would he or she be willing to take over your section of the chores and give you a break? Would the laundry be piled up and no supper be cooked?

Could your mate control his or her own stress to be a rock for you?

Could your mate put his or her on needs on hold for a while?

I think that these questions are very hard to answer until you are put into one of these situations. One really never knows how their mate will respond.

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Lyn is a kindergarten teacher and mommy to a girl and a boy. In her spare time, she enjoys informative and creative writing.

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Kara (21185) 03 May 2008 11:36 AM

my dh always says he'll help out but usually doesn't. He thinks he has things under control but never really does as far as home goes. He's always so focused on work because work is what feeds the family....but he'll always love me....that's gotta count for something, right?

Lyn Newton (3966) 03 May 2008 01:06 PM

I completely understand. I think that the thought that they are helping is there but they just truely do not "get" how to really help!

Dale Harcombe (10131) 04 May 2008 05:21 PM

I know I can always count on unqualified support from my dh, whatever I'm doing and for whatever I need. I would hope he'd (and I think he can) say the same. But then we've had a lot of years to practice in.