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January Check In: New Year’s Resolutions in Marriage

It’s time to check in and see how you are doing on your New Year’s resolutions. Did you make any resolutions in the area of your marriage? If you didn’t, I strongly encourage you to do so. Call them resolutions, goals or whatever you like…all of us could take steps to improve our marriages. In fact, this is my challenge for me and you the reader. Think of one thing you can do in the upcoming month to make your marriage better. Is there something that you know drives your spouse crazy that you could stop doing? Is there something … Continue reading →

Tips for Creating a Happy Marriage

A happy marriage – isn’t that what all of us want? What can you do to increase your chances of a happy marriage? Here are some suggestions. You can often tell when a marriage is happy or when it is not. It shows in the faces of the couple as they look at each other and relate to others. It shows in the way they talk about their spouse. They don’t criticize and draw attention to his or her faults. Rather they draw attention to their loved one’s good points. They certainly don’t talk negatively about their spouse when they … Continue reading →

Marriage and the New Year

I don’t know what makes me so popular today, but here it is, only nine thirty in the morning, and I’ve already received e-mails from two young people who are getting married, one next week and the other in March. Coincidentally, or perhaps not, my conversation with each had to do with goal setting and how to incorporate their new spouse in to their goals. I remember when I was contemplating marriage—how hard it was for me to get used to the idea that I wasn’t going to be an individual anymore, but part of a team—and how I had … Continue reading →

The Glue That Holds Marriage Together

Sure love and sex and all those other things we’ve talked about are important but there’s one thing that is vital. Communication- I know it’s something I talk about often in connection with marriage. Communication is vital before marriage and once we are married. It’s really the glue hat keeps a marriage together. If you can’t talk, and really talk, to your marriage partner about anything and everything then it makes for a difficult situation. We all want someone who accepts us as we are and who understands us. That someone should be the person we’re married to. We should … Continue reading →

Landmark Marriage

Whether they are natural features like, The Grand Canyon, Uluru, or man made like The Eiffel Tower, the Golden Gate, The Sydney Opera House, we could all name various landmarks. Places that stand out for various reasons and are clearly identifiable with a certain place. Have you ever thought of your marriage that way? Landmark This is another that came from my married daughter. As you can tell we spend time talking about marriage, not just her and me but her husband and mine as well are often involved in marriage conversations, even more so since I started writing marriage … Continue reading →

Want a Great Marriage?

If you want your marriage to be great, here are some Gs to help you achieve that goal. And yes, you guessed it, goal is the first one. Goal You goal should be to constantly keep working at you marriage. You will never achieve the perfect marriage but that doesn’t mean you should stop working on it and aim to make it the best it can be. There’s another important thing in marriage to do with goals. Are your spouse and your goals the same? Do you want the same things out of life and out of your marriage? If … Continue reading →

Food and Marriage

Have you ever thought about the importance of food and your marriage? After all, it’s something we need to have every day to survive. That means time spent preparing it and eating it and hopefully ensuring that you eat together as a family. Sharing a meal together can be an important time of catching up on what everyone’s been doing during the day, at work, at home and at school. Food brings people together. Food is an icebreaker for conversations. One of the best thing s we can do is invite others into our homes to share a meal. To … Continue reading →

Marriage Means Adjustments

Being married means making adjustments. It means adapting to living with another person and considering, and where possible accommodating their interests, likes and dislikes as well as your own. This is important in bed as well as in other places. When we first got married Mick said, ‘Why do you want to chat as soon as we get into bed?’ Having talking to a number of women it’s something more than a few of us are guilty of. I suspect it’s because when we get into bed, we start to replay the day in our minds. We’re thinking about what … Continue reading →

Is Your Spouse Missing Out?

Is your spouse missing out on valuable family time and a real bonding experience with your children? In an article published earlier this year it was reported that only 1 in 30 men in the UK found time to read a bedtime story to their children. I suspect the situation wouldn’t look that different in the USA or Australia either. Reasons for the lack of bedtime reading were cited as long hours and work commitments and tiredness. When women were interviewed the results were 9 out of 10 still found time to read to their children. I admit this is … Continue reading →

A Conversation You Wish You Had with Your Spouse

Is there a conversation you wish you had had with your spouse? It might be a conversation you wish you’d had with your spouse, or your parents, or another family member. The book I’ve been reading suggested, ‘write down something you wish you’d said with someone close to you but never did.’ In the book the main character, Sophie, looks back at all the ‘honest conversations’ she didn’t have with her ex. Conversations that she believed later might have averted the ‘derailment of their marriage.’ She thought about all the conversations she didn’t have with her parents and with her … Continue reading →