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Maybe Fathers Should Not Punish Their Daughters

After reading Extreme Punishments by Michelle Cheplic I wondered to myself, maybe fathers should not dole out punishments to daughters at all. When dealing with correcting daughters, fathers tend to make one of two fatal mistakes. 1. They let the daughter get away with everything in an effort to be the good or fun parent. In this case, the girl learns that men are pushovers and spends her life trying to manipulate men. 2. They not only break her out of bad habits but they also break her will. In this case, the daughter learns that men can be cruel … Continue reading →

How to Catch Your Spouse

There are numerous reality shows out there these days. One of them is called 
“Cheaters.” The premise is that an entire camera crew and a host will help you catch your spouse right in the act of cheating. Ugh. I don’t even want to know how this is called entertainment. But, catching your spouse can be good for your marriage. The kind of catching I am talking about doesn’t involve camera crews or even cheating. Did I lose your interest? I hope not, because the kind of catching I mean will make you a lot happier. It is catching your … Continue reading →

Men Don’t Nag

One of the interesting things here in the Marriage Blog is that Dale and I often find ourselves thinking about the same things. I was just about to write a post about nagging, when Dale beat me to it! This is a good thing, because it really helped me to think about the issue a little more. Dale made some great points about nagging. Many studies have shown that nagging doesn’t work. The person being nagged tends to tune it out, and the person nagging doesn’t really believe that things will change, even if she can’t stop nagging. Yes, notice … Continue reading →

How I Ended Up a Stay-at-Home Wife

It seems that once I made the confession that I’m a stay-at-home wife, I can’t quit talking about the topic. It’s been so freeing! Now I want to spill about how it was I ended up a stay-at-home wife. (Don’t worry. This will be the last post on this topic for a little bit. I’m working some more stuff up for September, though.) The Pull I was a good student throughout my academic career. I went to college. I worked afterwards. But I ended up job hopping. Then I decided to go back to school to become a paralegal. The … Continue reading →

Do You Love Your Spouse or Their Salary?

The other day Wayne and I got to talking about marriage, money, and respect. We’ve both known several people who divorced their spouses once they started bringing home the bigger paycheck. Specifically, women who divorced their husbands because they earned more than he did. “It has to do with respect,” Wayne said when we were talking about a particular friend. “She never had much respect for him to begin with. So once she started earning more, she lost what little she’d had.” “That’s pathetic!” I said. “If I ever made more than you it wouldn’t change how I felt about … Continue reading →

Belated Christmas Surprise in Bed

This isn’t going to be what you think from first glance. It has nothing to do with nookie. It does involve a belated Christmas gift that was delivered to me in bed, though. In one of the most romantic, delightful, surprising ways. Let’s go back a couple of days. It’ll make more sense why this gesture was even that much more romantic. Christmas Morning in Tears Wayne gave me my Christmas gift early: a digital camera. That was fine. I was tickled pink to get it, even if I went with and it didn’t come as a surprise. However, when … Continue reading →

The Marriage Blog Week in Review for December 17-23

Merry Christmas Eve! ‘Tis the season to be even busier than usual, but maybe today you have some time to catch up on things. Such as reading the Marriage Blog. If you missed any of last week’s musings from Lyn and myself, check out this edition of the Week in Review to see what we wrote on: Monday, December 17 How Much are You Willing to Give? Lyn proposed situations of spouses giving and wondered which ones would be giving too much and would warrant a “No!” Why Nookie Should Be on Your Christmas Wish List A report I saw … Continue reading →

How Do You Punish Your Spouse for Bad Behavior?

Do you even punish your spouse for bad behavior? I’m not talking about major felonies, but minor misdemeanors. The times when they’re being PIAs (Pain in the A–) as my friend Roxanne likes to say. In 20 plus years of marriage can you believe it wasn’t until last week that it even occurred to me I had the power to punish Wayne? (By “power” I mean a threat I could wield to make him snap back in line.) The “Do” that Ignited the First Shot It all started in the morning. I guess I woke up with a wild hair … Continue reading →

Marrying the Incarcerated

When someone is in prison, they look for people on the outside to be their life lines. While the prison system in the United States is not a pleasant place to be (although you could make the argument that U.S. prisons are far better than prisons elsewhere) they are still prisons. When you’ve committed a crime against society and you are sentenced to prison – you are not sentenced there as a part of a social club, but rather as a punishment and as a form of rehabilitation. Your days are monitored and strictly scheduled. You may attend classes and … Continue reading →