How Do I Get Closer to My Loved One?by Heather Long | More from this Blogger 05 Mar 2007 11:03 AM Are you loved? Do you love? I bet you do. After all, you're reading the marriage blog and whether you are married, have been married or desire to be married - then you are likely familiar with the concept of love and you do love. When we love someone, whether that someone is our husband, our wife, our child, our parents, our siblings or our friends, we want to be close to them. We want to foster that closeness and deepen it, if possible. In my experience, I've been very close to some people and that closeness has waxed and waned with the seasons. There is one couple that I have known for several years now and they are very good friends of mine. We can go months without talking, but the moment we do - we fall back into a comfortable and very familiar pattern that is equal parts stimulating and comforting. But How Do You Get Closer to the Ones You Love? We have many senses and there are many ways of demonstrating and receiving affection, but of our sensory perceptions - I would have to say that touching is the most important. Think about what we do with touch? We hug, we hold hands, we caress cheeks and we run fingers through hair. When it comes to being married or a part of a couple, we use touch to make love, to massage, to stroke and to intentionally engage in physical contact. Think about the images you have seen of people who have been separated due to circumstances or tragedy, when they come back together, the first thing they do is hug, letting their bodies touch each other in the embrace and holding on as tight as you can. It's what we do when our children misplace themselves and we find them - relief floods through us and we grab them close both to reassure and be reassured. The Romance of Touch When it comes to al the great romantic moments in a relationship, they often involve touch. Consider for a moment - the wedding proposal, the marriage ceremony, the birth of a child and more - in every instance, you are touching your partner whether it's your hands holding tight to each other. So if you want to be closer to the ones you love - touch them. Don't just have a conversation across the table, hold their hand while you are talking to them. Both you and your loved one benefit from the gift of touch whether you desire to be closer to them or just to feel the connection more closely. Hold your child in your lap, hold your spouse's hand, and give your parents and siblings a hug and more. Touch lets you feel closer and the one you love to feel more special. How do you feel closer to the ones you love? Related Articles: Relationships Teach, They Do Not Fail Answering Questions: Change is Inevitable Learn more about Heather Long  Heather Long is 35 years old and currently lives in Wylie, Texas. She has been a freelance writer for six years. Her husband and she met while working together at America Online over ten years ago. Relevantmarriage tags User Comments AKAMyAlias (242) 05 Mar 2007 07:43 PMI think you're right - touching is the MOST important, whether it's intimate or just mussing someone's hair. It says we're worthy to be loved.  Abi H (105) 06 Mar 2007 06:50 AMSkin on skin contact is important. I think you can tell a happy couple from how often they touch one another, if they brush against each other and hold hands when shopping or talking, it shows they have an intimate bond. My husband and I always hold hands when walking together, it feels lovely! Community Tags intimacy, love, marriage, senses, touching Discuss this article
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