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The Importance of Making Your Husband Feel Wanted

The last couple of months I’ve had a chance to reflect on a profound insight fellow Families.com blogger Sherry Holetzky shared in a comment she left on one of my articles. While you’re clearly in pain and feeling neglected, a terrible place to be, it may well be that Wayne has issues of his own. He’s sharing you with your mom and he too may be feeling neglected. On a rational level, he likely knows that she needs you more, but somewhere inside it still hurts not to be the center of your world… Turns out, Sherry was dead on. … Continue reading →

Why Nookie Should Be on Your Christmas Wish List

On Friday afternoon I happened to catch an interesting report on MSNBC. (Or maybe it was Headline News. I was in a post-Christmas shopping stupor at that point so I may have my channels confused. I was flipping between the two. But I think it was MSNBC.) At any rate, the reporters were talking about the surprising results of a poll TODAY conducted in conjunction with iVillage. They wanted to know about sex lives, in particular how often people were…well, doing it. Turns out, not all that often. The Results 30% had gone without it for a few months 24% … Continue reading →

There Are Other “Relationships”

I was talking with a friend recently who asked me how things were in the “relationship department.” Of course, she was referring to dating, significant others, and adult partnerships—but it dawned on me that even though I am an unattached single parent, I have all sorts of important and primary relationships that enrich my life. We tend to use the word “relationship” to only refer to one type of relationship—the primary, romantic partner one. But, in fact, there are so many other types of relationships and so many other opportunities for attachment, growth, affection, etc. As the single parent of … Continue reading →

How a Positive Attitude Affects Your Relationship

Since October is Positive Attitude Month, I thought it’d be a good time to reflect on our attitudes and how they affect our marriages. Because they definitely have an impact. Mirror Effect In our household we live by the “you get what you give” motto. It’s basically the same principal as the Golden Rule: treat me how you expect me to treat you back. I’m currently reading The Secret in which this principle is emphasized time and again. I first came to know of it, though, in a different manner (what you think upon grows) courtesy of Dr. Wayne Dyer’s … Continue reading →

RS/EQ: Ye Ought ‘Not Procrastinate the Day of Your Repentence’

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We are already a week into the new year. How are you doing at keeping your New Year’s resolutions? Have you started yet, or are you putting them off until ‘tomorrow’? Some resolutions may not matter, but others may well have eternal consequences. The first Priesthood/Relief Society lesson from “Teachings of the Presidents of the Church” is entitled “To Live With Him Someday.” President Kimball discusses the things we need to do to return home to our Heavenly Father. As I studied the lesson, one of President Kimball’s quotes stood out in my mind. One of the most serious human … Continue reading →

Relationship Dynamics: Avoid Jealousy

Jealousy is perhaps one of the most unattractive feelings a person can experience. You may think it’s one of the worst things that can happen to a relationship, but it happens to a person before it happens to a relationship. When the green-eyed monster affects a person it can change their behavior, triggering a nasty attitude and unkind words. Snippy comments can become vile and jealousy itself can alter perceptions of the person experiencing it. Suddenly, everything a spouse does can be seen as suspicious. Even the most normal of behaviors, things that would not be seen as out of … Continue reading →

Changing Moods

Your face can give you away. Sometimes I watch people while Mick and I are shopping or driving and some people constantly wear a sour look – they go about glaring at the world. It doesn’t make them easy to relate to but tends to turn people away. I admit sometimes for no apparent reason I am not in a good mood. I just feel down. Things go wrong and suddenly that bad mood escalates. At that point I have a choice. I can continue in that mood. Or I can try and look at the positives in my life, … Continue reading →

Growing Love

As I wrote in another blog the other day, I don’t know if it’s the season or what but I’m more in love with Wayne than ever. Which feels really nice considering earlier this year we were facing a marriage crisis. This morning I told him, “I don’t know how it’s possible that after 20 something years my love for you just keeps getting stronger, but it does.” I’ve sort of been thinking about that for the rest of the day so far. And since it’s so much on my mind, I figured that’d make something good to write about … Continue reading →

A Year to Remember

I don’t know where it went, but this month I’m celebrating my year anniversary being a Marriage Blogger. Confessions Last year, then managing editor, Heather Long, sent out a notice asking us bloggers if we’d be interested in either changing categories or adding on to any existing ones. I saw Marriage was one she was looking to staff. I’d guest blogged there a couple of times. I was interested in challenging myself. I asked if in addition to Pets I could also be assigned to Marriage. I alternated between jubilation and panic when her answer was, “Yes.” Okay, my wish … Continue reading →

What Have I Done to My Marriage?

If you’re a regular reader you’re aware of the big changes that have taken place in my marriage recently. What I haven’t shared yet is all the behind the scenes drama I’ve been enduring. 10 Secrets to Success and Inner Peace I don’t really want to go into too much detail about it all. I’m trying to avoid thoughts that weaken me. (That’s a lesson I’ve been re-learning over the course of the past few weeks as I re-read Wayne Dyer’s book 10 Secrets to Success and Inner Peace.) In order to keep strong for my mom I have to … Continue reading →