Four Tips for a Healthy Marriageby Sherry Holetzky | More from this Blogger 22 Feb 2007 09:20 AM How healthy is your marriage? Despite challenges, which we all face, do you feel overall, your relationship is strong? If so, the following tips may seem elementary, although we can all use reminders from time to time. Teamwork When facing problems or challenges, it is a good idea to come up with solutions together. Even if you are the more "take charge" person in the relationship, your spouse needs to be involved in the decision making. On the other hand, it is as important for a spouse that tends to defer to the other person, to take a more active role instead of weighing the other person down with most of the responsibilities. Be Positive While it is important to communicate issues of contention, it is just as important to communicate those things that please us. Do we look for and mention the positive things our spouses do and say, or are we often too quick to make note of the negative? Be Patient Patience may be a virtue, but it is generally a learned attribute rather than being innate. We have to develop patience and understanding and accept the fact that the people we love will not always agree with us or do things the way we do them (or want them done). It is important to realize that our spouses may not develop relationship skills at the same rate we do either, and to be patient and supportive during this continuous process. Adjusting takes time. Retain Your Sense of Humor There are many serious issues involved in marriages, but too many people take themselves and life much too seriously. It's okay to laugh. In fact, it's healthy. Be willing to laugh at yourself and laugh with your mate and try not to become consumed by things that really don't have much affect in the grand scheme of things. Related Reading: Working Through Stress Together Learn more about Sherry Holetzky  Sherry Holetzky is a work at home mom and freelance writer. Married to her best friend, Sherry and her husband are raising their family in a quiet rural setting in the beautiful Ozark Mountains. Relevantmarriage tags User Comments No comments on this article yet. Be the first to comment! Community Tags healthy marriage, sense of humor, Tips, teamwork Discuss this article
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