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Can You Ever Love the Same After Infidelity

I was asked by someone if it’s ever possible to love the person who cheated on you the same as you did before the affair. My answer in short was, “No.” With every experience in life, consequences occur. Your life evolves as you come to a new experience. Your life isn’t the same after each episode of your life places because you must adjust to accommodate the changes in your life. When a spouse cheats, it changes the marriage. It changes the way the marriage was before the affair. You can’t go back in time and change what has happened. … Continue reading →

The Three A’s

Divorce is never something to take lightly. In fact, I once had a professor who said there are only three valid reasons to get divorced; she called them the three A’s. It hit me so strongly that I have never forgotten it. Marriage is tough, but I am a firm believer that ALMOST anything can be worked out if both of you are putting forth the effort to make it work. Not every day is going to be a happy one, but in the end, most things can be recovered from if you are willing to put in the work. … Continue reading →

In Sickness and in Health

I have really been thinking about a blog that Michele Cheplic wrote a week ago, “Adding Insult to Injury.” It’s a sad story about a woman who gave birth to triplets but due to a medical error, suffered brain damage. She ended up being paralyzed and unable to speak or see. The “insult” that has been added to her injury is that her husband divorced her shortly after she gave birth to the children and was now refusing to allow the children to visit her. All I could think about was, “What ever happened to marriage vows?” Whatever happened to … Continue reading →

Take a Step Back and De-Stress This Christmas

Instead of stressing out about food and baking and so on at Christmas, why not let everyone chip in? A lot of get togethers of people I know, work on the basis of people combining food to make a birthday or special occasion or Christmas feast. Someone might bring dessert, another salad or a casserole or nibbles. It doesn’t matter. If people have a special dish they like make and want to bring it, fine. We often take dessert because I’m gluten free and some people seem to think it’s a hassle making gluten free cakes and desserts. It’s not. … Continue reading →

Christmas Parties and Marriage

It’s that time of year. Christmas parties are in full swing. We’ve been to two in the last two nights. Other people I know are faced with the dilemma of two parties on the same night and having to make a choice. Now I love to have a good time, whether it’s at a party or anywhere else, but in the festive season we need to be a little more careful – careful when it comes to our marriages. Some people come over all kissy kissy at Christmas parties, especially when they have a little bit of alcohol on board. … Continue reading →

A Serious Conversation about Affairs.

The other day Mick and I had a serious conversation about affairs. No, neither of us is planning on having one. We were talking about Mary Ann’s recent article as to the primary cause of affairs. The conversation started when I’d asked Mick what he thought it might be. He said ‘greed. They’re not happy with what they’ve got and want something more.’ The other things he mentioned were ‘opportunity and dissatisfaction.’ If people were getting what they needed at home they wouldn’t feel the need to stray and look for something else. It’s when they’re not getting what they … Continue reading →

Desperate for Love and Mr. Right

It seems it is so easy for those who are desperate for love and to meet Mr. Right, to be targeted and exploited by those looking for ways to make a quick few thousand. Such was the case for a 56 year old Australian woman who found her Mr. Right was in fact Mr. Wrong. While the internet is great for lots of things even finding love, as I have heard of those who have met online and then fallen in love and later married. But this latest story only serves to highlight again the dangers of the internet and … Continue reading →

Is There Such a Thing As a No-Fault Divorce?

Is there such a thing as a no-fault divorce? The law says there is. But is there really? Let me share with you an example. Some time ago I knew a couple, let’s call them Alice and John. (not their real names)John had an affair with another woman that resulted in him moving out of the family home and setting up home with the other woman. After a time he insisted he wanted a divorce, despite the fact Alice did not. In time he got his way. Now the conclusion that many people who knew this couple was that John … Continue reading →

You Can Window Shop All You Like

‘You can window shop all you like so long as you don’t take the goods home.’ This is the attitude of many to marriage. Another along similar lines is ‘you can flirt as much or lust as you like, so long as when you’re having sex it’s with your spouse.’ These are the type of attitudes a young married couple hear a lot from others they work with and even their friends. The idea is that it is harmless but is it? Faithfulness in marriage isn’t only about sex. It also means not going off for coffee with another of … Continue reading →

Mel Gibson: The Truth Shall Set You Free

He may be the ultimate hypocrite, but at least he’s honest. Not that telling the truth will save him from eternal damnation… but who am I to judge? If you watched Mel Gibson’s “performance” on NBC’s “Tonight Show” earlier this week, there’s one thing you can’t deny the Hollywood mega-star—-he’s one heck of an actor. The 53-year-old “Lethal Weapon” star showed up clean-shaven, looking relaxed in jeans, a white shirt and a blue jacket. However, it didn’t take long before he became a fidgety, sweat-drenched mess. And well he should have been. After all, acting takes effort. Gibson’s performance began … Continue reading →