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Are Your Trust Issues Holding You Back?

After a divorce it is natural to have a few trust issues. The person you put all of your trust in betrayed you and hurt you deeply. It is difficult to open yourself up to the possibility of that kind of pain again. You don’t want to feel vulnerable, and understandably so. Nobody expects you to rush into anything, so give yourself some time to deal with these trust issues now, so that they don’t continue to hold you back in the future. I’ve had a fair number of bad men in my life, as a result it has been … Continue reading →

More Tips to Strengthen Your Marriage

Yesterday I suggested a few tips to help strengthen and improve your marriage. Here are some more. Be Involved Make sure you have interests outside the home and/or outside the work situation. Neither of these should take up all your time. It might be a craft, a sport, or reading. Whatever it is doesn’t matter so much, so long as you are keeping mind and body active and maintain interests outside your family. It will keep you interesting as a person, help you maintain communication skills with others and provide topics of conversation. Have Common Interests At the same time, … Continue reading →

Do You Serve Religion or Christ?

This is a really a topic that you must know I write with the best intentions. I’ve blogged such topics as Religion vs. Faith, False Teachers, Sunday Christians and The Occult, just to name a few. But today I really want to view a slightly different facet; I want to address the definition of Christianity and touch on people’s fascination with religion. There is real danger in getting wrapped up in a religious mindset. Consider this blog the tie that binds the blogs I’ve mentioned. To be honest with you, I’m not sure what to even call myself anymore. I’m … Continue reading →

Shake It Off

Today I read a story about an old donkey who had fallen into his farmer’s well one day. The farmer fretted and stewed about what to do with the animal. Ultimately he decided that it was far too much work to get the donkey out, the animal was old and he was planning on covering up the well anyway. So he along with some neighbors grabbed a few shovels and began throwing dirt into the well. The donkey realized what was happening and cried out pitifully. After a few moments the animal quieted down and began shaking the dirt off … Continue reading →

Battling Self-Esteem Issues

Getting divorced can take a real toll on your self-esteem. When the person you’ve devoted your entire life to decides they don’t want to be with you anymore it hurts. At times the rejection can be almost unbearable. Low self-esteem haunts most of us from time to time, but it tends to be significantly worse after such a huge life-changing event. After my divorce I felt like I was a teenager again. I was insecure about every aspect of my entire being. I felt like everyone was judging me for what I was going through, like somehow it was my … Continue reading →

Enduring to the End

As single parents people often pass judgments and say unkind things about us. While I think this happens to everybody, we become more acutely aware of it as single parents. Our character is often called into question by people who don’t even know us and for no other reason than the fact that we are single. Our parenting is questioned, our lifestyle examined, and our decisions criticized by both people who know us and people who don’t time and time again. Over the last couple of months I have felt the heat of these judgments from people who once knew … Continue reading →

Time to Take Stock

As we start a new year it is a good time to take stock. One area each of us needs to take stock is in our choices. Are the choices you are making hindering your marriage? Are you making the choice to put all your energies into work and career, so that you and your spouse have little time together? Recently I heard of a young couple who are expecting their second child. Yet the husband will not be around either for a while before, or when, the child is born. He has plans to be away for months with … Continue reading →

Tips for Dealing with Renovations and Marriage

Here are some tips to help you deal with renovations and keep your marriage intact. Understand sometimes men and women look at things differently. More often he is not going to worry about living with the mess. He’s not going to care about trying to cook dinner in a kitchen that isn’t functional or how to bathe kids when the bathroom is not operational. If you can make arrangements with a relative or friend or neighbor to use their bathroom for a day or so it might be an easier option. If you do, be sure to be considerate of … Continue reading →

Cut the Criticism

On TV here there has been a show called four weddings. I haven’t watched it as I am not into reality TV but the premise seems to be each bride passes judgment on the other three weddings for what they consider works and what doesn’t. To me is doesn’t sound at all like compulsive viewing watching people criticize the others. Yet it happens all the time. Those married young, as Mick and I both were, are criticized by others. Those with a big age difference or who marry later in life or delay having children till they are financially secure … Continue reading →

How Much Is Too Much?

According to recent reports, Australian men are not good at sharing the housework and childcare duties. Yet compared to some other countries like Italy and France, they stack up okay. Although Aussie men do less than women, Dr. Lyn Craig, from the Social Research Centre of University of NSW, says part of the problem is the long hours worked by Australian men. The time is on average 10-11 hours a day. This is one of the reasons a man I know chose to give up his well paid job and re-train for work where he would see more of his … Continue reading →