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Problems with Having Your Own Agenda

There is a problem with having your own agenda. Actually there are a couple. One is that your agenda and what you want to do or what to happen may not be God’s plan for you or for others. The other is just as serious and one that can be extremely hurtful and divisive. Recently there were two examples where this occurred. One was by me letting my own feelings cloud the issue and say something when deep down a little voice was telling me I should keep quiet. One of these days I might learn to listen all the … Continue reading →

The Marriage Blog Week in Review for Dec 30 – Jan 5

Woo hoo, it’s Saturday and this week, we enjoyed watching our daughter go back to school and yesterday, she received a Good Effort Award for her progress in school. She’s mastering reading and so much more. Every day is a new adventure for us as parents and as a married couple, but we will talk more about that later. In the meanwhile, Sherry and I welcomed the arrival of the New Year here at the Marriage Blog with a series of articles covering everything from the marriage debates to the wedding planning. So without further ado, let’s talk about our … Continue reading →

Balancing Your Time

Childless couples face some different problems than couples with kids, but some of our issues are the same. One problem that I think any married couple has is spending time with one another. The specifics of the problem, however, vary whether or not children are in the equation. It’s well-known that finding time, period, when you have kids is a common conundrum. Finding time to do household chores, take a shower, spend time with your spouse, and still have some alone time can all be troublesome depending how many and what age children you have. Obviously Jon and I don’t … Continue reading →

Is There Such a Thing As a No-Fault Divorce?

Is there such a thing as a no-fault divorce? The law says there is. But is there really? Let me share with you an example. Some time ago I knew a couple, let’s call them Alice and John. (not their real names)John had an affair with another woman that resulted in him moving out of the family home and setting up home with the other woman. After a time he insisted he wanted a divorce, despite the fact Alice did not. In time he got his way. Now the conclusion that many people who knew this couple was that John … Continue reading →

Surprise Babies

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This month I’m going to share with you a few very special stories about surprise babies. There are no such things as “accidents” when it comes to babies, only unexpected blessings. Sometimes we have a hard time accepting the timing of these little bundles, but children have a way of stealing our hearts despite the circumstances. Sometimes the timing is nothing short of miraculous! I look forward to telling you the story of Heather and her precious little girl, Lily. Heather overcame countless obstacles in her TTC journey and her pregnancy was nothing short of a miracle. I will be … Continue reading →

One Thing at a Time

Watch any advertisement and you will soon see, advertisers focus on one thing and promote that. It’s sound advice to keeping mind when dealing with marriage and especially with problem areas, disagreements or arguments. Too often when couples get embroiled in an argument, they forget this advice and start pulling in other incidents and troubles from the week before, the month before or the years before. This is not helpful. When you have problems in your marriage don’t try and work on them all at once. Otherwise it can seem an overwhelming task and all end up being put aside … Continue reading →

Agreeing to Disagree

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When it comes to marriage and problems, sometimes couples get too focused on winning an argument. The simple truth is when you focus on winning an argument – you are both deciding that one of you will be the loser. This is especially true when you are in the early years of a marriage. There is More than One Truth When we talk about arguments, it’s usually because the parties involved have different viewpoints. Your perspective and your perception are two of the main ingredients in determining not only how you feel about a matter, but also how you define … Continue reading →