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Excuse Me, Are These Melons Ripe? Grocery Shopping with my Husband

Flirting with your husband in the produce department while grocery shopping may not seem like your idea of a date, but when you are saving toward a healthy emergency fund, a discussion about fruit may be some of the sweetest words you’ll hear. My husband and I had gotten in the habit of a monthly lunch date, on a Tuesday or Wednesday, when all three children are in school. We only have about a two-hour window of time alone, but this was usually sufficient to have a nice lunch and catch up without being interrupted by little people needing this … Continue reading →

Listen Up, Men – Flirt!

We’ve talked quite a bit about marital intimacy over the last few months, and I have no doubt that as I talk to readers and listen to their questions, we’ll continue to discuss it. Intimacy is one of those topics that create a lot of discussion. Everyone has questions about it, concerns about it—whether they want to share them in public or not. One of the things I hear most often goes something like this: “I wish my husband would flirt with me more often. He only turns flirtatious when he wants to be intimate, and the rest of the … Continue reading →

Privacy vs. Secrecy: How to Foster Intimacy in Your Relationships

Information really is power; how, what, and when to share can have a far-reaching impact on our ability to foster intimacy in our relationships. It is almost a rite of passage, for instance, for a new couple to explore one another’s past—first loves, first kisses, and even the first big heartbreak. These conversations both require and build a significant level of trust, as they reveal how we act and react at our most vulnerable moments. So what does it mean when your partner refuses to share? It can mean many things; the problem, of course, is that we often assume … Continue reading →

Do You Tell Your Husband When Another Man Hits on You?

Every now and then when we are out on a night with the girls, at work, or even simply out shopping, and we run into someone who finds us attractive. Whether it is the absence of a ring, the hint that you may be available, or just the lack of caring if we are single or not, we get hit on. Another man flirts with us or makes a comment that applies that he is interested in us. How do you handle it? How many of you rush home with the guilt of being looked at by another man and … Continue reading →

Weighing In On…A Husband Who Recruits Female Friends

Last week I sent invitations to friends to become Amazon Friends and Shelfari Friends. One invite went to a writer friend I hadn’t talked to in a couple of weeks. We had the usual “How’re things?” chat, in which she mentioned she was having a less than stellar day. I asked if everything was okay and offered an ear if she needed it. Well, she took me up on it, and for the past few days we’ve had an interesting exchange. I was shocked to learn this beautiful and talented woman (who has asked I please keep her identity anonymous, … Continue reading →

How To Flirt

If there were one class everyone could take as a high school elective, flirting 101 might be it. Some people are natural flirts and others wouldn’t know flirting if it walked up and hit them in the head. The problem with flirting is it’s the natural form of communication between men and women. Flirting is almost a language of its own and it conveys many different things between people from amusement to interest to just playfulness. Your best and foremost weapon of flirtation is your smile. A smile invites another and once they’ve smiled back at you, then you’ve opened … Continue reading →

Using Pet Names In Your Relationship

Sweetie! Darling! Love! Boo-boo! Snookums! Shudder, guffaw and pass the insulin. There is nothing so sweet and compulsive as the first time your mate calls you a pet name. No matter how odd the nickname or how endearing it is, when your mate is comfortable enough with you to crown you with a nickname, it makes you feel special. It’s amazing what a little phrase of affection can do. Now there are simply some people who pass around endearments with the ease of how they smile. They are quick, warm platitudes that they give as willingly to someone they just … Continue reading →

Does Your Husband Flirt?

Is your husband a huge flirt? Does he flirt like he breathes? Do you get tired of hearing him refer to others as sweetheart and hon? Does it make you crazy that he doesn’t understand why it bothers you? It can be deeply frustrating to see how easily your husband can put an arm around someone else, demonstrate deep affection or use pet names for other people that are not you. First, Understand Why You Feel This Way It’s important to understand why you feel this way. Are you feeling neglected? Is his attentions to others taking away that affection … Continue reading →

Not My Idea of Romance

Not so much for me In my first two marriage posts I mentioned not really adhering to or enjoying “lovey-dovey” relationships. I realized if I’m going to keep using that as a contrast to what my marriage is like, I ought to define how I’m using the term. The simplest way, because otherwise the English major in me will extrapolate the phrase to death, is to do so with a story. My husband and I don’t give each other anniversary gifts, but that wasn’t always the case. When we were younger we did such things because we thought we should … Continue reading →

Bring Justin Bieber Home for Christmas

Unless you are willing to face kidnapping charges, the likelihood of having Justin Bieber serenade your tween in her bedroom on Christmas is slim to none. Fortunately, there is a way you can get the 16-year-old singing sensation to make an appearance under your Christmas tree this holiday season—-kind of. Thanks to HarperCollins, your Bieber Fever fanatic can wrap her arms around the pop star’s first book, Justin Bieber: First Step 2 Forever: My Story. The 240-page hardcover masterpiece is filled with intimate details about Bieber’s life as a tween idol. In addition to getting the lowdown on wonder boy’s … Continue reading →