Do Men Treat Their Second Wives Better Than Their First?by Lyn Newton | More from this Blogger 25 Nov 2007 11:14 PM I worked with a lady that once told me something that I had never really thought about until she mentioned it. Now it seems that I look into it much more carefully. She had been divorced and her previous husband was engaged to be married again. She was dating a man that had also been previously married. His wife had passed away from illness. One day she commented on how men always treat their second wife better than they did their first. Her current boyfriend was married to one of her friends. After her friend passed away the two of them become close. They then began dating. She remarked about the things that the man did for her, such as cleaning up after dinner and taking her out. She noted that he never did these things with his previous wife. She also made note that her ex-husband did things for his new wife that he would have never dreamed of doing during his first marriage. So are men different with their second wife? I have begun to notice that it seems they are. It is possible that the men realize their mistakes that they made the first time and are trying to make-up for or correct these mistakes from happening again. It is also possible that they had begun to take their first partner and the relationship for granted. At the moment the new relationship is fresh and exciting. After time it may get treated the same as the first. It is also possible that he first marriage was just a wrong fit and the chemistry was not there. The new marriage may be the right one. Readers, I ask you Do men treat their second wives better than their first? If any of you have ex-husbands that are remarried, does he treat his second wife better than he treated you? I Don't think I'd be Good at Divorce Is the Second Divorce Easier Than the First? Learn more about Lyn Newton  Lyn is a kindergarten teacher and mommy to a girl and a boy. In her spare time, she enjoys informative and creative writing. Relevantmarriage tags User Comments Tanzee8 (5) 17 Feb 2008 12:17 PMMy exhusband makes a point to treat his fiance better than he ever treated me. Probably because I left him, he feels the need to make me regret it. Just shows how desperate he is to prove he wasn't the one who wrecked the marriage. After all, he has showered her with flowers, gifts, trips, and an engagement ring bigger than the one he got me after knowing the woman only nine weeks (and making sure my son would tell me all about it . . .) Too bad the only thing I'm thinking is how sorry I feel for his new bride-to-be! Flower1975 (26) 02 Apr 2008 11:13 AMI don't think there is a simple answer to this one. Everyone is different, and every relationship is different, and whoever left whom doesn't really matter. I do agree though, as a 'second' that it's possible to be treated better in some ways... but I didn't live their marriage, I wasn't there through the 'good times' to see. There are always 2 sides to every story - and where my fella was left, his ex didn't really appreciate all the little things he did for her... whether that is right or wrong I don't know - i wasn't there... but at the end of the day it didn't work out. My fella treats me well - there are times when it's not perfect - but we are both more aware of failed relationships and our part in them... perhaps it's that which makes us BOTH more giving, forgiving and open to each other. Who knows... snglnubianmom (5) 04 Nov 2009 06:56 AMNeither my ex-husband or myself have remarried after our divorce. I have since started a new relationhip with another man that is wonderful. From our conversations with eachother, he treats me completely different than he treated his ex-wife. I must admit I also treat him way better than I treated my ex-husband. I have remained in the same relationship with this man for 3 years now. My ex-husband is still single and struggling with relationships. Community Tags divorce, ex husbands, ex wives, second wives, second husbands Discuss this article
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