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The Marriage Blog Week in Review: November 11-17

Is it really Saturday already? It seems kind of crazy that we’re already here, when I was just writing up the week in review last week. But here we are. It’s been an eventful week here at the marriage blog as we approach our first anniversary, we also crossed the 1,000th post line and Sherry and I continued our point and counterpoint in Marriage Debates. You’ll see changes taking place over the next week as we close in on Thanksgiving with a little re-organization and the adding of topics here and there. As always, we want to hear from you … Continue reading →

Speaking in Anger

When I was a little girl, we had a ton of storybooks on a shelf in our family room, and I spent hours reading them over and over. One was the classic story of the husband and wife who were sitting down to dinner and got into an argument. Harsh words were exchanged, and the husband couldn’t control his temper. Pointing at the meat in the center of the table, he exclaimed, “I wish that sausage was stuck on the end of your nose!” Now, if there’s anything we’ve learned from other fairy tales in the past, it’s that the … Continue reading →

Keep Your PIN Safe

Back in the early 1990s I worked for a large bank in California. I worked for two and a half years on the bank’s 24-hour customer service line. I’ve written before about working as an Express Agent and the types of calls I would get. I got a lot of calls from people who needed help balancing their accounts. I also got calls from customers who had never balanced and felt it was the bank’s fault they were now being charge non-sufficient funds charges and having transactions returned. I’ve also written about how important it is to save your receipts … Continue reading →

Selfishness and Dishonesty Taken to the Extreme

I was horrified when I read this article about a man who infected the woman he claimed to love, and who he later married, with HIV. According to reports , he did not tell her he had the virus when the couple first ‘began a sexual relationship in 1996.’ Instead he knowingly and willingly passed the disease on to the woman he supposedly loved without telling her. By the time she found out, it was too late. This has to be the height of selfishness on this man’s part. Obviously Judge Thomas Wodak thought so too, He said ‘the fact … Continue reading →

When Your Spouse Doesn’t Listen

You often hear women joke that men have ‘selective hearing.’ But sometimes it is not a joke. Have you ever felt like that what you say to your spouse is not getting through to them? Whether it’s sex, work, household chores, friends and time spent with them, hobbies –the topic doesn’t matter particularly, if it’s a problem it needs to be talked about in a calm, reasonable manner that is non accusatory and blaming. But what if you’ve done that? Your spouse has appeared to be listening, made all the right noises, agreed things need to change and then…. Nothing … Continue reading →

Trust Issues in Your Home Business—Part Two

Earlier today I wrote about how our own trust issues can have a definite impact on how we work in our home businesses. We are not the only ones who might be wrestling with trust stuff, however. Our customers and clients bring their trust issues to the table when they work with us and it can influence how well we are able to work together. There are things we can do to help to ease the tension and help our customers and clients learn to trust us. In the first place, it might be tough to identify what is a … Continue reading →

Trust Issues in Your Home Business—Part One

When we think of “trust issues” many of us think of our personal relationships—those we have with a partner or spouse, children, or friends and family. Trust issues can also affect our home business operations, however, whether they are issues that we have or ones that are coming toward us from our customers and clients. Writing and talking about trust issues can be sticky. After all, many of us do not even realize what we are wrestling with. We may think we are just being “smart” or preparing ourselves for the inevitable. If we are constantly assuming that our customers … Continue reading →

When Your Parents Don’t Like Your Partner

Taking your partner to meet your parents for the first time can be a tense event for all parties. Expectations, interests, personalities, histories and how well someone is feeling at that particular moment can all play a part as you bring together the people you love in one place. Your partner’s nervousness is understandably that of someone who wants to be approved of and your parents’ nervousness stems from wanting to like this person you found important enough to bring to see them. But what if the best laid plans of mice and men go awry and while your partner … Continue reading →

Relationship Rules

When it comes to relationships, we need rules and we need those rules for two reasons. The first reason, the most simple of reasons actually, is to know what to expect or to look for. The second reason, maybe not so simple, is that it’s hard to judge what a relationship should be from day to day. After all, it seems that complex and complicated relationships have become the acceptable norm. Truth be told, the individual invents the complexity in relationships. Our relationships now are no more complex than they were fifty years ago or a hundred years ago. The … Continue reading →

Do You and Your Spouse Deal with Finances Together?

In some marriages, one spouse holds the “purse strings” (or the checkbook and passbook) while the other knows very little about the financial situation or has very little control over it. For some couples, this works fine because one spouse may prefer not to have the responsibility while the gladly takes it on. For other couples money can become an issue of control in their marriage. It seems like there should be a happy medium. Even if one person deals with the bills, balances the checkbook, applies a certain percentage of the household income to savings, and generally takes care … Continue reading →