One of the things couples fail to realize is that many marriage problems stem from a lack of time. You see, it takes quality time to nurture a relationship. If you are spending more time at your job or with your kids, then your marriage is bound to suffer. Now don’t get me wrong, different seasons in life require more attention than others. For instance, when my children were young they naturally required more of my time and attention. But even then, it didn’t necessarily mean my husband only deserved the leftovers. Time can’t always be measured in quantity. It … Continue reading →

Have you ever heard someone speak against marriage because they didn’t want to “lose their identity?” I have to say that I think this is a valid concern for anyone considering a walk down the aisle. I totally believe in the biblical concept that the “two shall become one.” I think your lives must become so intertwined that it is no longer only about you. Now you have to consider someone else’s thoughts and feelings before making decisions. Two become one in making financial decisions, raising the children, and so on. But that doesn’t mean you should lose your identity. … Continue reading →

Do you appreciate the differences between you and your spouse? Or do you find them to be more of an aggravation? It’s funny how when you first meet someone, those differences can be endearing but over time, they can become frustrating. Sometimes I have to catch myself falling prey to this. I can look at the differences between us and feel like he needs to change. But in reality, it is who he is. And just as I expect him to accept me, I need to do the same. Take the way we respond to stress. It is very different. … Continue reading →

They say that opposites attract and while I do believe that is mostly true, I also think that what this brings to a marriage is balance. Imagine if your spouse were EXACTLY like you. I don’t know about you but for me that is kind of a scary thought. My husband and I have very different personalities. He is much quieter, not as prone to speak up about things. Me, on the other hand, I have no problem offering my opinion. He is more laidback and I can be high-strung. The way I look at this is if we were … Continue reading →

Depending on how you look at it, one of the interesting features of Facebook is learning what someone’s relationship status is. This can be a good thing when you want to tell the world that you are in a relationship. But then it can come back to haunt you when everyone finds out that you are now single again. But there is another category that I always chuckle at when I see it as someone’s relationship status, “It’s Complicated.” That right there is a red flag. If you think about it, though, relationships can be complicated. Even if you are … Continue reading →