Differences in Decision Making

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22 Jul 2008 07:35 PM

Previously I had discussed how some dating couples who attract due to their differences find themselves rebelling due to them when married.

Personality differences in marriage can cause some unique decision making for couples. On one end of the personality spectrum there are mates who tend to make decisions from their gut. They go with their feelings and their heart. On the other end are the mates who prefer to make logical decisions. They think things through and ignore their feelings if they go against what their head tells them is right.

This difference can often lead to heated discussions when a couple with mates of each end tries to come to one decision together.

Most logical thinkers feel that the "feelers" make things too personal. They believe that those who side with their heart are too emotional and often side with friends and family for personal reasons.

Those who go with their heart often complain that the "thinkers" lack value in other's feelings. They believe that these people are cold and heartless. They often complain that those who reason things out are reluctant to share their feelings.

It tends to be a pattern that more women fall into the "feeler" category and more men fall into the "thinker" category. However it can also be the opposite.

With these two very different personalities, it seems unlikely that the two would fall in love in the first place. However there are things about one another that likely contribute to the "feeler and thinker" relationships.

The "feeler" often is attracted to the way that the "thinker" can make decisive decisions. He/she admires level-headed thinking. The "feeler" likes how the "thinker" is not over emotional or gets his/her feelings hurt easily.

The "thinker" is often attracted to the"feeler" because of the personal care that he/she gives. The "thinker" likes the kindness and friendliness of the "feeler". The "thinker" is also typically attracted to the commitment that the "feeler" keeps to loved ones.

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Lyn is a kindergarten teacher and mommy to a girl and a boy. In her spare time, she enjoys informative and creative writing.

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