Dealing with Irritations and Problems in Marriage

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25 Jan 2009 10:47 AM

How important are the little things in marriage? They are very important. It is often the little things which when ignored can become monumental problems in marriage.

The other day we were listening to 60s song on the local community radio station. And Mick made the comment it's often the little things that end up over time being the straw that breaks the camel 'back. The little things about that their spouse does that start to drive a husband or wife crazy.

So of course, I asked whether there were things I do that annoy him. The two he mentioned were: talking when he's trying to listen to the news bulletin and turning off songs on the radio when I don't like them. Often they are the ones he likes.

They're two things he'd talked about before so I was already trying to work on NOT doing any more. I don't always succeed but I am getting better. Strangely enough, when we were talking recently with friends about this topic, the guy mentioned those same two niggling irritations in their marriage.

The things I'd previously mentioned to Mick that annoyed me were: leaving the lid of the kitchen tidy open and throwing my tea bag out before I've gone back for my second cup of tea. I have my tea so weak a new teabag for each cup would be an absolute waste.

At this stage these aren't major hassles but just minor irritations. But why wait till something does become major hassle? Surely it's better to clear the air and talk about them and then try and do something about whatever is causing the problem? It is more use to talk it over with your spouse than complain to others about it.

It made me think again of Mary Ann's article where people refused to deal with problem that existed in marriage but let them go and build up and get worse before they finally took some action. We don't ever want that to happen in our marriage.

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LPH78 (5) 03 Oct 2009 08:54 PM

Good article! I am married from 7 years and we have a son. From the past 6 years it seems like that only conversation my wife and I have is the argument.

We hardly make a conversation. I hear from my wife daily or atleast 5 times in a week that I am selfish or absorbed.

Like I bought 1 dollar bananas and I have to listen to comments like it was not in our budget. When yesterday, my wife went shopping and bought 30 dollars worth of clothes for me (I didn't ask for it neither I want to buy anymore of them). It just seems odd and makes me wonder why I am listening to it.

Sometimes, it drives me to the point that I want to ask and get a Lawyer to end it.

Just start thinking about the son and his future...

Dale Harcombe (10327) 04 Oct 2009 01:06 PM

Thanks for the comment. Sorry to hear you are having a hard time. Negativity and criticism and arguments can be hard to deal with and are never helpful in marriage. May I suggest that if you could compliment her each day, she may get the idea and change her attitude. You can only try. Otherwise you may need to seek counseling.