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Dealing with Jealousy

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Jealousy can be a big issue in some relationships. Some partners find that they become very controlling and obsessive when in a relationship. Others feel more secure and are comfortable with their mate being around others of the opposite sex. There is a line that can be drawn between being too jealous and too lax in your relationship. While you do not want to put your mate in the old ball and chain, you also want to be able to recognize when something is not right. Jealousy is not always something that can be controlled. Some people, women especially, become … Continue reading →

Control Issues & Jealousy

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What is a control issue and what does it have to do with marriage? Control issues usually take place in a marriage when one partner or the other or both are feeling jealous, threatened, insecure or possessive. Those negative emotions can spawn a need to control what is happening in their life, even when they have no ability to apply control or to influence the outcome. It can be even worse for their partner as they try to control them as well. Loss of Control Control issues and jealousy do not always go hand in hand, but if you’ve ever … Continue reading →

Marriage Tips: Jealousy is Not a Positive Sign in a Relationship

When we think of someone getting jealous, we think that it means they must really care about us. Jealousy is not a positive sign in a relationship though because jealousy is a very negative emotion. The idea that you can test someone’s love for you by flirting with another person and that how your spouse reacts is an indicator of their love is not only faulty, it’s dangerous. Jealousy has its roots low self-esteem and fear. People are more likely to be jealous when they don’t believe they are lovable or that they are not worthy of being loved. They … Continue reading →

Relationship Dynamics: Avoid Jealousy

Jealousy is perhaps one of the most unattractive feelings a person can experience. You may think it’s one of the worst things that can happen to a relationship, but it happens to a person before it happens to a relationship. When the green-eyed monster affects a person it can change their behavior, triggering a nasty attitude and unkind words. Snippy comments can become vile and jealousy itself can alter perceptions of the person experiencing it. Suddenly, everything a spouse does can be seen as suspicious. Even the most normal of behaviors, things that would not be seen as out of … Continue reading →

Sibling Rivalry Involving Children with Special Needs

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Life can be difficult for children with special needs, but it can also be tough on their siblings as well. They face the challenges of watching their sibling get more attention from their parents, struggle and suffer, while dealing with the stares and comments of strangers and kids in school. They can battle feelings of fear, embarrassment, loneliness, and guilt. Luckily, there are ways to help them. Listen and be honest. Be a good listener when it comes to your children. Talk to them about their feelings and don’t keep them in the dark when it comes to their sibling’s … Continue reading →

A Sad Statistic

Yesterday on the radio I heard a sad statistic. According to statistics more couples break up over the next four weeks than at any other time of year. For a time that should be happy and rejoicing and is about the gift of love as revealed to all of is through God’s gift of Jesus this is a horrifying statistic to hear. The cause of the break ups between couples is largely stress. Dealing with visits to respective families, or families that don’t get along with each other and all the interpersonal squabbles and jealousies and interactions that go on … Continue reading →

Pregnancy and Relationships: Friends

An interesting phenomenon happens when a woman announces her pregnancy to her friends. Some will be genuinely excited. Some will experience heartbreak in the midst of infertility. Some will feel jealous if they have not yet reached the “baby stage” of life and would like to. Some may not feel much of anything. When a friend experiences anything other than genuine excitement, the potential for drama arises. Add some pregnancy hormones into the mix and you have recipe for disaster, but no relationship has to be doomed because there is a baby on the way. Pregnancy can cause heartbreak between … Continue reading →

Are You Really Best Friends?

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How many times have you heard someone comment that their spouse is their best friend? I have heard it a lot. However in how many cases is it actually true? It seems that those words are just something that one says because they feel like they should. Many partners may say that they are best friends but in reality they do not treat one another like best friends at all. Many partners have much higher expectations, more jealousy, and greater demands of their mates than they ever would have for a friend. In addition they also typically give their mate … Continue reading →

Even Rock Star Wives Sing the Blues

One afternoon not too long ago as I was folding laundry I was watching True Hollywood Story: Rock Star Wives. It was sensational. Some of the rock stars profiled included Dee Snider (Twisted Sister), Alice Cooper, Duff Mckagan (Guns N’ Roses, Velvet Revolver), Slash (Guns N’ Roses), and Vince Neil (Motley Crue). Both the wives and the rock stars were surprisingly candid about the trials and tribulations their marriages experienced. What struck me most was how so many of the marriages had encountered every kind of worst case scenario imaginable. And I’m not talking about just one kind of worst … Continue reading →

Should You Date a Co-Worker?

It is a very controversial subject. We see actors playing out the situation on television shows. Should you or should you not become involved in a relationship with a coworker or boss? First you must consider how the relationship will affect your job? How closely do you and the other person work? What will happen if the relationship does not work or ends poorly? Having a relationship with a coworker that works on a different floor in a different department from you is completely different than dating the person at the next desk. Consider how often you see each other … Continue reading →