Creating a Date Nightby Dale Harcombe | More from this Blogger 05 Oct 2008 04:52 PM I regret the demise of wine and dine - those intimate little candle-lit restaurants that used to be around when Mick and I were young. You could have a meal,enjoy listening to someone sing romantic songs and play the piano, or get up and dance. I'm talking, the old time dances where partners actually held each other in their arms. Never having much money we only went to such places for an anniversary, birthday or special evening out. These days the win and dine seems to have disappeared. So the other night we created our own. We went out to a local Thai restaurant and had our dinner. Since it was BYO we took our bottle of wine and enjoyed our meal. Then we came home, turned the lights on dim, put on a romantic CD and danced around our family room. Our little pup thought she'd get in on the act and started nipping at our feet but after she'd been trodden on once, she retreated to the sit on the bean bag and watch this strange behavior. For Mick and I it was a romantic evening together. We kissed as we danced, just the way we used to when we were teenagers. The faces and bodies might look a bit different to what they did back then, but some things don't change. The love we have for each other is one of them. It goes to show that a date night doesn't have to be a major production. We could just as easily, as we have other times, had dinner and wine at home and then danced the evening away. It brought back lots of memories of past evenings spent in similar fashion. So next time, you're after date night idea, create a wine and dine environment in your home with candles and a nice meal and use your CD player to provide romantic music for dancing.It is one way of bringing the romance back to a marriage. Please visit these related blogs Your Song- Significant in So Many Ways Learn more about Dale Harcombe  Dale has a passion for books and writing. She writes in various forms, from articles to poetry to fiction for children and adults. Relevantmarriage tags User Comments mrmnmom82 (3365) 05 Oct 2008 05:16 PMThankyou for this reminder of the "in home" date. We are expecting a set of twins in Dec., we also have a 4yr.old and 2 yr.old. Our anniversary is 10days after the twins are due. So I had become resigned to the idea that we weren't going to celebrate. But I love the idea of an in home candle lit dinner with romantic music and dancing! Thankyou again!  Courtney Mroch (9169) 06 Oct 2008 11:47 AMYou know, Dale, this is a really sweet testimony to your relationship. Wayne has always said it's the small, unplanned, off the cuff moments he's always enjoyed most. The bigger or more elaborate we make them, or the more anticipation leading up to some big event never holds the same feeling as when we just did something spontaneous. And I just had to smile picturing your puppy trying to get in on the act and then sitting down trying to figure out what you two were doing. CUTE!  Dale Harcombe (10327) 06 Oct 2008 01:35 PMSo true, it is often the little things that become special. And I knew you'd appreciate the our furry third party's antics. She is a cutie. DrTS (10) 25 Apr 2009 06:45 AMI have long encouraged couples to regularly create a special dinner together in their own home; the kids off to bed when they're younger, or perhaps their own special meal earlier when they're older. It's a lovely thing to look forward to, a way to slow down and reconnect. As a therapist, my wife and I recently developed a 500 card game which couples play over a meal, in a restaurant, out for coffee, or on a walk together. The game is called "A Private Affair," and couples of all ages have found it to be just the spark to get deeper sharing and rebuilding going. Truly, most couples are aware when poverty and lifelessness has moved into their friendship, but many just don't know how or where to begin the reconnecting. I often think of Francis Schaffer's classic book, "How Then Shall We Live?" We could just as easily, "How Then (remind me) Shall we Really Love Each Other?" We have links to our game, and articles around these topics at our blog: http://blog.aprivateaffairgame.com/ The premise for the game is from the Genesis 2:25 ideal, that truly, we might be "naked and not ashamed." ...that we might risk more vulnerability, trust and intimacy. Cheers! Dale Harcombe (10327) 25 Apr 2009 03:00 PMthanks for your commentsDRTS. The game sounds interesting. Our family loves games. Community Tags and this is the "private affair", but of course, date nights, dancing, it's our SPOUSE we're most inter, romance, romantic songs, the game IS interesting, wine and dine, YES Discuss this article
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