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How I Love

A geeky way Finally after three articles where I dance around the subject, I’m going to explain my version of romance and how it functions in my marriage. I dithered on expounding for a while because I wasn’t sure how to articulate it, which given my usual propensity for words is telling. I’m not even sure when my view on romance began to shift. When I first started dating Jonathan, I had what would be considered a more traditional view on how to approach love. As I matured it changed, influenced I’m sure in no small part by my husband’s … Continue reading →

Why Do You Love Your Spouse?

You may think this is a stupid question, but it’s a real one. Take a moment and think about it. Why do you love your spouse? You tell them you love them every day, hopefully. You demonstrate it in small ways and through your gifts and your actions. But why do you love your spouse? Have you ever thought of telling them why you love them? Write Them a Letter Here is a thought this holiday season, sit down and write a letter and describe why you love your spouse. Tell them about their positive qualities, their caring qualities, and … Continue reading →

The Tokens and Customs of Love

There is something beautiful about the old style rituals and formalities of paying court and delving into the love and romance of other times. For example, during the Victorian years, a primary requirement for marriage was romantic love and because this was so important – the act of courtship developed into an art form and it was very important for every part of the rituals to be observed. For example, if a man wished the company of a lady, he would present her with his card. As the evening progressed, she would study the cards of the men who presented … Continue reading →

Courtly Love (Part III)

Have we changed that much in the last eight hundred years? In the sense of romantic fantasy, it would seem that the Western world has changed very little. What was true of perceived romantic fantasy then is just as true today. After all, a cliché becomes a cliché by being true and used, over and over again. In other words, if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. But is it really broken though it has not changed? Romantic movies and novels paint idyllic pictures of how romance should be. The pictures can be so idyllic that we in the real … Continue reading →