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New Year, New Resolutions for Marriage

As we start this New Year we might wonder what the New Year will bring in our lives. We might wonder what changes there will be in our marriage. If we are wise we will have thought about this and made some resolutions or goals regarding our marriage. Maybe this year we will work on fulfilling our dreams whatever they may be. Maybe this year will see and addition to the family. That doesn’t always mean a new baby. It could be an elderly parent coming to stay or a adopting a pet. Believe me, our little dog is very … Continue reading →

What to Do If Your Marriage Is in Trouble

So, you went through yesterday’s check list and found some of those warning signs in your marriage, what can you do? Before you decide the marriage isn’t worth saving, try some of these remedies. You might be surprised. Often when people commit to making a marriage work, they find it actually ends up better than it ever was. It’s surely worth a try. 1. If you no longer find your spouse attractive, why is that? Make an effort with your appearance for your spouse and it might encourage your spouse to make an effort for you. Buy your spouse something … Continue reading →

Marriage Break Up – No-one is Immune

None of us is immune. How often do we hear of marriages breaking up, sometimes after a short time but other times after many years together? I was saddened recently to read of the marriage break up of a minister I admired. His sermons were biblical, thoughtful and practical. Sadly, it seems he spent so much time on church matters that his own marriage suffered. As Mary Ann pointed out – if people don’t get what they want from a marriage they tend to seek it elsewhere. This attitude of society to seeking fulfillment outside the marriage shows up in … Continue reading →

Causes of Marriage Break Ups

Opposites attract but only up to a point. According to Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott,one of the main reasons many couples break up is that they have not enough in common. This can happen early in a marriage or even sometimes, as it seems recently in growing numbers, after the children have moved out of home. Couples find they have nothing in common. Nothing left to talk about. A solution to this might be to take up a hobby or sport together. Before I broke my arm which has out me put of action for months, Mick and I played … Continue reading →

Getting Over a Break Up

The first few days after a breakup are the worst and breakups themselves are terrible. The best way to start on the path of recovery is to focus on you, yourself and you. Don’t dwell on the person who’s not there anymore, instead allow yourself to be a bit selfish and self-centered. Do what makes you happy. If you like romantic comedies, go see them, if you like sports, go play them, if you saw some new shoes that you really liked and you can afford them, go for it. The first few weeks after a breakup are about you, … Continue reading →

Stars Call for Chick-fil-A Boycott

If you’ve ever drive by a Chick-fil-A on a Sunday, you have probably noticed it is closed. Chick-fil-A believes that employees deserve Sundays off, but this also follows along the company’s Christian values. These values must pay off in some way. To me at least, it seems like everyone that works at Chick-fil-A is friendly and happier than the average fast food worker. But, that being said, some celebrities have a problem with the company and have called for a boycott. Ed Helms, of NBC’s “The Office,” is the latest in a string of celebs to condemn the company for … Continue reading →

Is It Really ALL Bad?

Have you ever reached that point in marriage where it seems like everything is bad? Things just aren’t going well or they aren’t going the way you had expected. Take the time to ask yourself…is it really ALL bad? Here is what tends to happen in these situations. We are so focused on the “bad” we fail to see the good. I have been there…many times. Throughout the course of 20 years of marriage, there have been ups and there have been downs. What I especially remember in my earlier years of marriage is that thinking during the downs it … Continue reading →

Book Review: Her Best Catch by Lindi Peterson

I recently had the chance to read “Her Best Catch,” a Christian romance by Lindi Peterson and published by Bell Bridge Books. I enjoyed the story quite a bit. Our main character is Allison Doll, a woman who’s not quite thirty and has all but given up on romance. She’s an auditor by profession, a devoted Christian, and she lives with her mother and grandmother, seeking to support and comfort them after the tragic death of her father. Each of these women is seeking comfort in a different way, and Allison finds her greatest strength in her religious beliefs. When … Continue reading →

How Long?

How long since you complimented your spouse? No, this is not a rhetorical question. I’d really like to hear your answer. Plus, it might be good for you to think about it. Can you even remember the last time you complimented your spouse. Mine was last night just before we went to sleep when I said to my husband. ’I’m glad I’m married to you.’ When was the last time your spouse complimented you? Sadly, compliments according the recent report appear to be one of the first things to disappear. In the first throes of love a person can expect … Continue reading →

Leave Room for the Individual

Listening to some parents and reading a lot, I come up against one idea – that of parents trying to make their children clones of themselves. What do I mean? Parents who want their children to go into the family business, or follow the same career path they did, or maybe the one they dreamed about but were unable for various reasons to follow. It’s been the theme of lots of movies where parents want children to be and do one thing and they have some other passion e.g. Billy Elliot. It’s something I find offensive – parents who want … Continue reading →