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What About Romance?

Romance– just the mere word is enough to send some guys running for cover. Others, like the young man last night who got down on bended knee in the sand with a little box and asked his girlfriend to marry him, know how to be romantic. Incidentally she said yes. It’s something that’s happened before on our beaches in summer and it is romantic. As for the words romantic movie, some men wouldn’t be caught within a hundred yards of a movie theater showing a romantic movie. I’m glad my husband isn’t like this. His favorite movie is Casablanca. Another … Continue reading →

Sapping Self-Confidence

Are you sapping your spouse’s self-confidence and creating problems in your marriage? Recently I experienced an example of how negativity and negative comments can affect performance. It was on the tennis court. I was not playing with Mick since he’s not back to tennis yet since his health problems and would never have behaved like this anyway. The person I partnered in one set was so negative that an air of tension pervaded the court. I was all the time conscious of the negative vibes coming from my partner. The result was I became tentative in my shot making, found … Continue reading →

The Price of Nagging

Be warned – nagging comes at a price. Yesterday’s headlines carried the story of a man in the UK who offered his nagging wife, who he married only last year, for sale. Apparently he claims that he did it as a joke. But the sad and scary thing is he actually had a number of people ringing up about his ad. What does this say about our society and views about marriage about people? Are we going back to the days when women were considered a commodity to be bought and sold at will like a piece of household furniture? … Continue reading →

A Love Story of Sorts

I love that Mick and I can enjoy a romantic movie together. The other week we recorded one of the midday movies to watch at a later time. I’d read the write up in the TV guide, saw Cheryl Ladd was in the movie – Mick and I remembered her from way back with the original Charlie’s Angels. I thought for the write up it sounded like it might be okay. Our theory is if it doesn’t capture our interest then we just stop watching and wipe it off. After choir I’m usually hyped up and find it hard to … Continue reading →

7 Marks of the Mature Christian

What do you want to be when you grow up? As a child do you remember being asked that question? I do. What about your children? What are you hopes and dream for them? What do you want them to be when they grow up? Sometimes you will hear parents say, ‘I don’t care what they do; I just want my kids to be happy.’ And if we’re honest. We’d probably say we want that for ourselves too – to be happy. Growing up is hard, harder for some of us than others, it sometimes seems. Growing up as a … Continue reading →

The First Year of Marriage

As I listen to people talk I find a lot of couples seem to have unrealistic ideas about marriage. Of course, I suspect many of these are perpetuated by romance novels, songs, and movies. One couple I know found the first twelve months or so of marriage very difficult. Every little thing seemed to aggravate the other person. This was largely because they were living in a small flat and she was not used to not having a space that was not completely her own. Another woman found it strange sharing a bed with another person. Personally I like waking … Continue reading →

The Pleasure of a Romantic Movie

It is funny how things work out. Last night, my husband and I had a rare couple of hours to ourselves. It hasn’t been easy lately. With family and friends dropping over for the holidays, and me working in the evenings after dinner, we seem to keep missing some alone time. So back to last night. We collapsed on the couch together and before we could even consciously decide how we wanted to spend the rest of the evening, we got sucked into a movie on cable television. I got sucked in first when I turned the television on for … Continue reading →

Can Watching Romantic Movies Negatively Affect Your Marriage?

According to an article in the Sydney Morning Herald by novelist Jojo Moyes, and based on research from the ‘Family and Personal Relationships Laboratory at Heriot-Watt university in Edinburgh,’ watching romantic moves can be detrimental to marriage giving people an unrealistic view of relationships and marriage. While common sense might tell us there is no such thing as the perfect relationship, the conclusion is that some people are far more influenced by what they see on film or read in books than they realize claims Dr Bjarne Holmes, conductor of the research. Films and books often tap into this whole … Continue reading →