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When Your Spouse Doesn’t Listen

You often hear women joke that men have ‘selective hearing.’ But sometimes it is not a joke. Have you ever felt like that what you say to your spouse is not getting through to them? Whether it’s sex, work, household chores, friends and time spent with them, hobbies –the topic doesn’t matter particularly, if it’s a problem it needs to be talked about in a calm, reasonable manner that is non accusatory and blaming. But what if you’ve done that? Your spouse has appeared to be listening, made all the right noises, agreed things need to change and then…. Nothing … Continue reading →

Are You Quick to Blame?

Blaming others, blaming God, blaming the Universe, or even blaming one child or another for something that has happened can seem like the logical immediate response. Being too quick to blame, however, can keep us from being present in the situation and able to look at things objectively. It can also be a response that actually makes things worse. How can you know if you are focusing too much on fault? A certain amount of blame—especially as an initial, emotional response can be somewhat normal. It still might not be the most productive way to respond, but it might be … Continue reading →

Coping With and Combating Blame

It doesn’t seem to matter if you have one child or seven when it comes to coping and combating a child’s tendency to blame. If a child isn’t blaming his or her woes and troubles on a sibling, it could just as easily be the dog, a neighbor or the weather. Some parents seem to have more patience with this than I do, but I have found that blame is a surefire way to NOT take responsibility for one’s own life and it is one of the human traits I have worked hard on with my own children. It seems … Continue reading →