Ask Yourself...Are You Really Ready To Get Married?by Elizabeth Kane, MA, Marriage and Family | More from this Blogger 24 Jan 2007 04:37 PM Getting married is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. You are choosing your life partner. Your spouse will be your confidant, your best friend, your playmate, your business partner, the one you turn to in times of worry and stress and someone you will need to rely on for the years to come. Oprah did a show recently where she referred to the issue of women in the United States getting married when they really did not want to or were pressured to do so an epidemic. The engagement ring. WOW! What a wonderful piece of jewelry to see sitting in the box in front of you waiting to be put on your finger. What happens all too often is that the woman may not be ready to give a yes answer to the man in front of her, but the ring is very persuasive. For kicks she lets him put the ring on her finger and instantly gives him a "Yes! Of course I will marry you!" answer. It is so easy to get caught up in the excitement of the proposal and quickly give an impulsive reply. What happens from there is that then the woman feels that there is no way out. After all she has already given a yes answer, friends and family have all been made aware of the engagement. How can she possibly back out now even though she knows she is not ready or interested in marrying this man. There are important questions a woman should ask herself before she gives her "Yes!" answer: Why do I want to be married? Am I confident in the love I feel for this person and in the love they have for me in return? Do we share similar life goals? Will he be there to support me when I need him emotionally? Do we have a mutual respect for one another? Do we have fun together? What are my thoughts about his family? Does he get along with my family and/or friends? What will our finances look like? Will there be stress? What does my gut tell me? RELATED ARTICLES What Did You Expect? Learn more about Elizabeth Kane, MA, Marriage and Family  Elizabeth Kane lives in Newport Beach, California with her Husband and 3 children. Elizabeth works as a Marriage and Family Therapist-I. Relevantmarriage tags User Comments No comments on this article yet. Be the first to comment! Discuss this article
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