Are You The Ham or the Eggs?

by Heather Long | More from this Blogger

03 Nov 2006 10:52 AM

Are you the ham or the eggs? Seriously, are you the ham or the eggs? Yes, I am serious about the question. Thanks to Grey's Anatomy last night, I have to applaud the writers for their efforts because now we have a great new catchphrase and it's a great analogy for commitment and involvement in a relationship.

The Analogy

The question is: are you the ham or the eggs when it comes to your relationship. If you are the chicken and provide the eggs, you are not giving yourself fully to the relationship. You give the eggs, but you're still a chicken. If you are the ham, then you can no longer be the pig. The pig is sacrificed to become the ham and that means you are 100% committed to the relationship.

If you are the ham, you're there - you are devoted to the relationship and you are not just playing at the relationship game. If you are just the eggs, you aren't ready to be in the relationship all the way and you are not devoting yourself.

The Answer

We want to be the ham, we want our spouses and our significant others to be the ham too. Because when they are the ham, we know they're there - period, end of story. But if we're not ready to be the ham and we're only willing to give the eggs to the relationship, then we need to be honest about it too.

Being the ham isn't easy, remember - when you're the ham, you give up just being you. In every relationship, in every marriage - we become a couple. We become more than just who we are. When I was single, I was just I and I was just responsible for me and how I felt. When I got married, I chose to stop being the pig and to become the ham. I'm a wife and a mother and that's part of how I define myself because that's who I am.