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Is It Really Worth It?

Sometimes the way we react to a situation depends on our own outlook on life and especially our outlook about marriage. Let’s face it; some people have some very negative views about marriage. like this one from Katharine Hepburn ‘If you want to sacrifice the admiration of many men for the criticism of one, go ahead, get married.’ On that note, Mick and I were in the supermarket buying tins of tuna that were on special. It was one of those deals where if you buy so many tins the price is reduced. When we got to the checkout, we … Continue reading →

Are Men Really the Weaker Sex?

I’ve been thinking a bit since reading Courtney’s blog about men being the weaker sex and trying to relate it to the men I am or have been closest too – my husband, son, son-in-law and my father. In each case I can’t see that these guys fit that pattern. As on example, last Saturday when I was launching GROW – UNDER THE SOUTHERN CROSS, an anthology of poems and stories for children and young teenagers, I had nothing but support from the men in my life. Mick spent a great deal of time organizing and printing fliers to send … Continue reading →

Men: The Weaker Sex?

Before I begin, I just want to say that, even though the title might suggest otherwise, this article isn’t intended to be a slam against men. Rather, it’s just some reflections on things I’ve seen regarding boyfiends and husbands over the past 10 years during my stint as a stay-at-home wife. Not that I’ve had all sorts of relationships with other men. But I’ve had lots and lots of talks with my women friends. It was when I was living in Jacksonville that I noticed a pattern forming where our husbands were concerned. And ever since I noticed it, I … Continue reading →

Drop From the Marriage Vocabulary

There are some things you never want to say to your spouse, because they are the type of things that can have serious effects. Three little words that should be dropped from the marriage vocabulary are, ‘never,’ ‘always,’ and ‘only.’ Imagine how your spouse feels if you tell them, ‘you never say the right things,’ or ‘you never do what I want.’ Now I’m sure if you thought about it long enough you’d realize what you mean is right at this moment you are not saying or doing what I want you to. If you tell them they never say … Continue reading →

Love Well

Marriage isn’t a one off choice and that’s it, marriage is about choosing every day. Choosing to put someone else’s needs about your own. It’s choosing to be committed and stay committed and not keep looking around and wonder what if. . It’s choosing to look forward to each day with the one you’re with, rather than look back at the past and wonder what might have been. Marriage is offering support and encouragement to your spouse in the things they do. The other day advance copies of my two news children’s books for young readers arrived on our doorstep. … Continue reading →

Don’t Expect Perfection

Don’t expect perfection- it sounds obvious since none of us are perfect people. We all have our faults and personality traits and things we could and should change. If we’re honest, we know we’re not perfect, but how often do we expect perfection from our spouse? To take an example. How often do they offer to do a job and we expect them to do it perfectly – which of course means exactly the way we would do it. More often that not, that won’t turn out to be the reality. Think about this example. Suppose your spouse volunteered to … Continue reading →

The Effects of Alcohol on Marriage

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Excess alcohol can cause severe problems in a marriage. Like many people Mick and I enjoy the occasional glass of wine with a meal. Or he might enjoy a beer with his pizza, which is the occasional weekend meal. But that’s where it stops. Even Aussie actress Nicole Kidman was not immune. She recently admitted that her husband’s problems with alcohol had severe consequences for their marriage. It appears they took the step of admitting the problem and getting him into rehab. During that time she claims that they ended up working on the problem and making the relationship stronger. … Continue reading →

What Would You Not Forgive – Part 2?

Yesterday I told you of the discussion four of us had about what we would not forgive or would struggle to forgive. The other thing both of us the women in the group mentioned was domestic violence. I’d find it hard to live with a man who took out his frustration and anger on me in violent ways. You’d always be walking on eggshells wondering what next would set him off. I say he, because although abuse of husband by wives does happen, it is less common. With domestic violence there is often a pattern where the violent act is … Continue reading →

What I Learned From My Husband

Are you a person who has difficulty saying ‘no’ when asked to do something or go somewhere you don’t want to go? Do you end making all sorts of excuses about why you can’t do whatever it is you are being asked to do? Then this is the blog for you. I used to be like that. I used to let other’s expectations get in the way and at times tie me up in knots. And then I watched my husband handle a similar situation and realized he never had the problems I did. If asked to do something he … Continue reading →

Causes of Marriage Break Ups

Opposites attract but only up to a point. According to Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott,one of the main reasons many couples break up is that they have not enough in common. This can happen early in a marriage or even sometimes, as it seems recently in growing numbers, after the children have moved out of home. Couples find they have nothing in common. Nothing left to talk about. A solution to this might be to take up a hobby or sport together. Before I broke my arm which has out me put of action for months, Mick and I played … Continue reading →