Are Little Fibs Harmless?by Lyn Newton | More from this Blogger 05 Feb 2008 10:04 PM Granted, I will admit that a relationship should be built on trust and honesty. However, do you ever tell your spouse little fibs? Do you think your spouse ever fibs to you? The fibs that I am talking about really carry no significance other than the fact that you are being lied to! They are the little fibs that I know some spouses tell just to appease the other. I feel that men are much more guilty of these avoidance fibs than women. The ones I am referring to are those little fibs that the husband tells when he says that he has only had one beer that day and he had three. Or when he says that he came straight home after work but really stopped by a buddy's place. These fibs are not hiding or covering up anything major that would be very critical to your marriage. They are usually just fibs to keep down on the argument or conflict with the wife. There is also the one when he says he just got finish with the job yet he has been hanging out talking to buddies for the past hour. Or the one when he says he will be home in ten minutes when he knows it will be much longer. I am not one to condone these fibs. However, I do know that they exist and are typically harmless. I have heard wives complain about them. I am also sure that some wives do their part in telling little white lies. Some of these lies may even come into play when she is not in the mood for what he has in mind. My question for the reader is: Are these little fibs acceptable and have you ever told one? Does you spouse ever tell them? Learn more about Lyn Newton  Lyn is a kindergarten teacher and mommy to a girl and a boy. In her spare time, she enjoys informative and creative writing. Relevantmarriage tags User Comments  Jade Walker (964) 06 Feb 2008 08:43 PMI'm not sure I understand the point of lying to your spouse. Calling it 'fibbing' doesn't make it it acceptable or harmless; you're being dishonest with your mate and that action is destructive to your relationship. In the examples given above, it seems clear that the husband is doing things he knows are wrong, actions that will get him in 'trouble' with his wife. Which makes you wonder about the balance of power in their marriage. She's not his mother. She's his wife. And yet he's treating her like someone who will punish him if she finds out he actually has a life outside of their home. Eventually, lies will be discovered and then your mate will no longer believe the words coming out of your mouth. Why should they? You've already proven you have no concern for their feelings; you'd much rather lie to suit your own needs. If you're being dishonest to the one person you're supposed to love, honor and respect, then you either have serious problems or your relationship does. Madre4 (10) 05 Mar 2008 04:12 PMTelling little white lies or not disclosing information to your spouse is the start to ruining your marriage. Eventually being deceitful becomes repetitive, one lie turns too many to cover up for the first. I have been married 17 + years, for the first 16 years I had complete trust in my husband. Last summer I found a resume on our computer, with an email attached from 22 yr. old waitress. The note address him as â€Å"Sweetieâ€Â, as well his reply message addressed her as â€Å"Babyâ€Â. To make a very long story short he had been stopping after work for 8 months (that I know of) with a male co-worker, all the while telling me he was working late. After one excuse to the next; lie after lie, or I don’t know as an answer. I questioned his faithfulness & honesty to me. After 8 months I have finally came to believe he was not unfaithful, but his lies almost ended our marriage. Being deceitful is NOT being respectful to your spouse and one of the MOST important things to a happy marriage is respect, communication, honesty & trust. Community Tags communication, honesty, lies Discuss this article
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