Search Results for: blog are crushes natural

The Marriage Blog Week in Review for October 1-7

This past week Heather joined Karri and I in the Marriage Blog again, making for a variety of topics. If you missed any, why not use this as an opportunity to catch up with what we wrote on: Monday, October 1 Karri kicked off the week and the start of the new month by getting excited about an event that takes place on the last day of the month: Halloween! She offered some great ideas for Halloween costumes for couples. Heather wondered should a prenup be compulsory these days? I offered some ideas for how to learn more about your … Continue reading →

Are Crushes Natural?

I’m no expert, but I would have to say yes. Crushes happen. And not just to school girls and boys. Saying “I do” and donning a ring on your left hand isn’t an inoculation against infatuation with people other than your spouse. Dirty Little Secrets But no one really talks about it. I’ve seen girlfriends of mine get a little giddy when someone other than their spouse walks into a room. They act a little different, smile a little more, flirt even. It can be anyone from a co-worker to a family friend. I’ve teased a few of them about … Continue reading →

Celebrate Justin Bieber’s Breakup

Justin Beiber is a free man. And by free I mean you still have a chance to become Mrs. Justin Bieber. Christmas has come early for billions of the Beib’s ferociously loyal female fans. According to reports, the uber-popular singing sensation and his girlfriend of nearly two years, actress Selena Gomez, split late last week. Yes, ladies, hope is still alive. Now, get out there and celebrate by wrapping your arms around the 18-year-old’s latest love letter to you–his nearest and dearest supporters. Just Getting Started by Justin Bieber is your key to what makes this boy toy tick. The … Continue reading →

What To Do When You’ve Got a Crush on Someone Other Than Your Spouse

On my article Are Crushes Natural?, a reader left a comment about how she’s happily married but developed a big crush on someone else. She even tried to hook the guy up with an available friend, but that only made her think about him more. She admitted she knows she needs to stop thinking about him, but also that she hopes the friend and him decide not to see each other again. Yikes. That’s a tough situation to be in. Now some of you will take objection to that and say “If she’s so happily married, why would another man … Continue reading →

Fantasizing Wives

This morning on Today I happened to catch a segment about “Sex and the Married Mom.” I didn’t catch who conducted the poll. (I want to say it was a collaboration between AOL and Cookie Magazine. Somehow Cookie Magazine must have been involved because two women who worked for the magazine were being interviewed about the poll results.) Who did it isn’t as important as the results they found. The Poll The poll interviewed 30,000 married women about their sex lives. What they found was that most of us aren’t as satisfied as some may have formerly thought. Some of … Continue reading →

Thoughts on Marriage and Monogamy

As I was writing What You Might Not Have Known About Affairs, I got to wondering: If we’re not programmed to be monogamous, why do we try to be? (As part of my research for that piece I was surprised to learn that monogamy is not the norm for 97 percent of most mammals, including humans.) Something else I learned while researching another article, Affairs and STDs, was that as many as 60% of marriages could suffer a cheating spouse. At first I thought as high as 60% seemed ridiculous –-until I learned about how humans are not monogamous beings … Continue reading →

When a Stalker Intrudes on Your Relationship, Continued

In another blog I wrote about Wayne’s stalker and how I hadn’t believed he hadn’t done something to provoke the girl’s interest. I left off saying how I learned first hand that perhaps he had been innocent after all because of an incident that happened to me. In my case, my stalker lived in the dorms across the street from mine. I was friends with boys who lived in the room next to his, and I met him through them. Just one time. I can’t remember what function I was helping with. I was part of Hall Government so I … Continue reading →

When a Stalker Intrudes on Your Relationship…

…it can be really uncomfortable. First let me define what I mean by “stalker.” I’m not talking about the crazy knife-wielding, if-I-can’t-have-you-no-one-can kind. (I imagine it’s a lot more than just “really uncomfortable” dealing with that sort.) No, I’m referring to the kind of people who take a sudden and very keen interest in you or your mate and are conveniently everywhere you are at the same time, or call all the time, or email…you probably get the gist. This thankfully hasn’t happened to Wayne and me in a while now. But he and I have both had a stalker … Continue reading →

Who’s That? – An Admission about My Roving Eye

It was a comment left by Families.com family member JadeWalker on For Men Who Do Not Wear Their Wedding Band… that gave me the guts to make my next admission: sometimes I find myself checking out good looking guys. A certain type of good looking guy in particular. But before you either defend this as my natural right or land blast me about not being a devoted enough wife, let me explain a little further. The Kind of Guy Who Catches My Eye I tend to go for the tall, athletic types with dark hair. Not too bulky, but not … Continue reading →

Have You Made a List of Those You Find Attractive?

In a previous article Courtney discussed the natural instinct that humans have to have crushes. Being physically attracted to other people is all a part of our human characteristics. Upon meeting or seeing someone new, people can become fixated or attracted to beautiful people within the first half of a second of seeing them. It is natural to want to look or even stare at people that we find to be attractive. Research has shown that our eyes automatically give attention to those of the opposite sex. The attention lasts depending on how attractive we feel that the person is. … Continue reading →