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When Someone You Love Won’t Face Their Depression

I have found myself in a difficult situation. I have come to believe that my husband, whom I love dearly, is suffering from depression. He is expressing a lot of common symptoms. He has lost interest in doing things, to the extent that he will sit in front of the TV all day. He doesn’t have any desire to play with our children. He’s moody and sarcastic. He rarely has anything positive to say. He’s irritable. He has little to no patience. He will sneak away any chance he has and nap. He has no desire for sex. Adding to … Continue reading →

Marriage Week in Review: July 14 – July 20

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It is great to have Courtney back writing with me this week. She brought a lot of interesting topics to us. Check out below if you missed out on any. Monday, July 14 Family Matters: Marriage Thicker Than Blood? Courtney questions on how you would respond if you were asked to choose between your spouse and your family. If I Had To Do My Wedding All Over Again… In this article Courtney tells us the things that she would change if she had her wedding again. Tuesday, July 15 The Priest’s List of Five Must Haves for a Happy Match … Continue reading →

When He Refuses Marriage Counseling 3

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Today I have been discussing one extreme measure that a woman can take to get her husband to attend marriage therapy with her. This method is described by Dr. Patricia Allen in one of her books. The first step of the method is to write a five paragraph letter to your husband. The second step is to leave and give him two times that you will call. I left off with the first call. During this call you can expect that he will likely either be angry or sad. However no matter how badly that you want to or no … Continue reading →

When He Refuses Marriage Counseling 2

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I had begun my last article by discussing how many women find that their husbands are reluctant to get help for their marriage. Many women are desperate to seek out help and try to save their marriage. However they have no clue where to begin with getting their husbands to go. I had started a process that is suggested by Dr. Patricia Allen is how to get your husband to attend therapy with you. Before carrying out this process you must be very serious about getting help. You must also be at the point that you are ready for a … Continue reading →

When He Refuses Marriage Counseling

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Women are much more accepting to getting help for their marriage than men. Most men are unwilling to open up to a stranger (a therapist) or even admit that they cannot work things out on their own without help. There are many marriages that could have been saved and divorces that could have be avoided only had the husbands given up their pride and gone to therapy with their wives. So how can you get your unwilling husband to attend therapy with you? Obviously he cannot be forced. In most cases you will not benefit from him going against his … Continue reading →

When Your Therapist Does Harm (2)

In When Your Therapist Does Harm (1) (see link below) we looked at the possibility that some therapists may actually cause further harm in their already distressed patients and clients. This harm usually comes in the form of instigating a sexual relationship with their client. As previously mentioned, it is imperative that for therapy to work there is a good rapport between therapist and client. In fact, therapy will stall without it. But occasionally, due to the intimate nature of therapy, a client may become infatuated with their therapist. This customarily happens between a male therapist and a female client, … Continue reading →

Marriage Laws – Arizona

As we continue our series on marriage laws, we are heading south to the desert states of Arizona. Arizona is one of three states that have covenant marriage on the books. The statue was added in 1998 and we’ll explore more about that in today’s look at Arizona marriage laws. Arizona Applicants do not need to be a resident of the state to marry there. You should be sure to check with the county where you plan to get married as each county may have specific requirements. Be sure to bring a valid photo ID along with your social security … Continue reading →

Mormons and Divorce – Part Two: What are Grounds for Divorce?

As I stated in my previous blog in our “Mormons and Divorce” series, the goal is to do whatever it takes to keep our marriages strong and healthy so we can be together eternally. However, this is not always possible. While every situation is different and I can’t speak for your leaders or pretend to know more about your circumstances than I do, here are some examples of times when your Church leaders might be inclined to support your decision to divorce. Adultery. The Church has a firm stance on adultery and members who commit this sin will most generally … Continue reading →

Thoughts on Long-Distancing It: Breakdowns Are Inevitable

Yesterday I wrote Thoughts on Long-Distancing It: How Commuter Marriages Are Born and told how Wayne and I have had a long distance marriage going since July. I also wrote about Friday Night Lights and Tami Taylor, a character on the show going through the same ordeal. It’s not easy being separated from your spouse. It is easy for tempers to flare to extremes, though. In some cases quickly, in other cases they simmer before exploding. Here’s two examples of what I mean: Example One: Tami’s Meltdown While her husband, Coach Taylor, is away trying to adjust to his new … Continue reading →