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To Leave or Not to Leave

In the early years of our marriage, the threat of leaving became our default position in a distressing number of our fights. For me, the devastation of feeling totally misunderstood, my efforts unappreciated, and my actions unfairly judged left me thinking that there was only one way out, and that way was out the door. Over the years, however, I have come to understand a few things: 1) There is hardly ever just one way out; 2) If you are truly committed to the marriage, leaving is not an option; and, 3) Control is at the root of most conflict. … Continue reading →

Just Because You Are You

So many times when we are in the middle of our marriages we focus the shortcomings in ourselves and in our spouses. We look at the flabby middle, the graying hair, the fact that no matter how we try, we just can’t learn to make a good casserole. We worry that with marriage comes familiarity leading to disinterest, or that we don’t keep ourselves attractive enough. How many times have you asked your spouse or has he asked you, “Why do you love me?” Have you been able to reply from the heart about all of the little things, the … Continue reading →

The Gift of Unconditional Acceptance

Unconditional acceptance of another person is a wonderful thing that is very difficult to achieve, and maybe impossible to achieve 100 percent. But that is okay. The more effort and understanding we put into our marriages, along with a good dose of love, the closer we can come to this ideal. When you first meet someone and then fall in love with him or her, the whole thing is rather exciting. You may find yourself overlooking the other person’s faults (and we all have them) or trying to cover up your own. But marriage is all about trust, to whatever … Continue reading →

Faults You Should Not Accept

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Previously I wrote and article about how your feelings can influence your fights with your mate. I have also discussed in the past how we must learn to be ourselves in our relationship and also accept our mate for who he or she is. At times we must learn to look over our mate’s little quirks and realize that if we cannot accept and love each other for who we are then things will likely never work. In the comment section of the first article that I described, a reader questioned me about accepting verbally abusive, critical, controlling, and temperamental … Continue reading →

Enrichment Tip: Identify and Accept His Faults

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My latest series of articles has focused on tips that women can carry out to help enhance their relationship with their husbands. In the first article I discussed the importance of taking the guess work out your needs by speaking out about what it is that is on your mind. The next article focused on the importance of being supportive about your man taking a periodic guys’ night out. In this article I am directing the conversation toward his faults. Everyone has faults. No matter how much you love your mate; eventually (usually found after you have lived together for … Continue reading →

Is He the Man of Your Dreams?

If you were asked to describe your idea of a perfect man, would you be describing your husband? I think that this question all depends on the day and time that it is asked! Of course we all have those moments when we feel that our spouses are less than perfect. However, in general, are you satisfied with what you have or are there a few things that you would change if you had the chance? I have noticed at some of my girlfriend get togethers there are some women who continuously complain about their husbands. I cannot say that … Continue reading →

Drop From the Marriage Vocabulary

There are some things you never want to say to your spouse, because they are the type of things that can have serious effects. Three little words that should be dropped from the marriage vocabulary are, ‘never,’ ‘always,’ and ‘only.’ Imagine how your spouse feels if you tell them, ‘you never say the right things,’ or ‘you never do what I want.’ Now I’m sure if you thought about it long enough you’d realize what you mean is right at this moment you are not saying or doing what I want you to. If you tell them they never say … Continue reading →

The Glue That Holds Marriage Together

Sure love and sex and all those other things we’ve talked about are important but there’s one thing that is vital. Communication- I know it’s something I talk about often in connection with marriage. Communication is vital before marriage and once we are married. It’s really the glue hat keeps a marriage together. If you can’t talk, and really talk, to your marriage partner about anything and everything then it makes for a difficult situation. We all want someone who accepts us as we are and who understands us. That someone should be the person we’re married to. We should … Continue reading →

Recipe For a Happy Marriage

Given the increasing rate of divorce what can we do to safeguard our marriages and make sure we don’t end up among the statistics? Here are some suggestions that we have found work in our marriage. Take all the ingredients below and out them together in a marriage. Hold on tight to what you have. Consider your marriage and the positives of your spouse and don’t forget to let him or her know how much you appreciate their special qualities. Overlook their faults. We all have them. Love is about accepting the other person for who they are faults and … Continue reading →

Marriage Week in Review: June 23 – June 29

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The topics in marriage this week have focused on arguments, weddings, and relationship news. Beat the heat this summer, sty inside, and check out some of the articles listed below! Monday, June 23 Is Your Argument over Control? Some couples take part in arguments due to control issues. They are more interested in seeing who can control the other rather than the issue at hand. Your Feelings Influence Your Fights How sensitive we are and how we respond to certain situations all depends on the how we feel. If you are having an “off” day be sure to let your … Continue reading →