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Are You Hiding From Your Finances?

One sure way to get into or stay caught up in a financial mess is called the “ostrich approach”. Ostriches are pretty cool birds, but they are known for sticking their heads in the sand when confronted with danger. In case you are curious, ostriches do not really stick their heads in the sand – that is myth which has been perpetuated through time. They do lie down and play dead when confronted with something that they feel they can not outrun. The “ostrich approach” is still an appropriate analogy for what not to do about messy financial situations. Some … Continue reading →

Put Those Grounds To Good Use!

Has your relationship with coffee changed since becoming a mother? Mine sure has. I grew up in Seattle, and inevitably have had a lifelong love affair with Starbucks. I couldn’t imagine anything more refreshing on a warm summer afternoon then an Iced Vanilla Latte. Nothing warmed me up better during rainy fall afternoons than a Pumpkin Spice Latte. After I got married and the reality of paying bills set in, paying $3-$5 for a cup of coffee was no longer a reality. I soon began brewing my own Starbucks coffee at home. The love affair continued. Then, I got pregnant, … Continue reading →

When You are Feeling Neglected

Many times when spouses feel slighted by their partners or they feel as though they aren’t getting their needs met. When someone feels this way, feels unloved, it is almost natural to close in and look elsewhere for those needs to be fulfilled. But, it is so much better to put that effort into looking toward your marriage instead. Don’t look elsewhere Let us pretend that you have been feeling neglected because your spouse is always out with his or her friends. An initial reaction might be to go and hang out with your friends as well, flirting a bit … Continue reading →

The Danger of Christmas

Following on from Mary Ann’s blog, it is especially important to remember at Christmas when there are Christmas parties happening and lots of events where people have at times had a few drinks. At such times sometimes fuelled by alcohol the inhibitions can tend to relax a little. And so we may need to be a little more vigilant about keeping that hedge up. We have some friends with whom we are on a hugs and kisses, hello and goodbye basis. Since I believe a kiss is a sensual thing, Outside of my husband and adult children no one else … Continue reading →

Home Month in Review: November 2008

Is your home ready for the holidays and winter? Now that November is over, it is time to gear up for the December ahead. Take a look at last months articles and see if there is anything you missed! November 1st Home Blog Month in Review: October As I sit here looking out my window at the backyard, the birds are hovering in the pine tree against a strong wind and steady rain. The temperature is chilly today, and the calendar reminds me that we have left October behind. November 2nd Fall and Holiday Decorating with Nature 2 Isn’t it … Continue reading →

Revenge Affairs

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All across the Families.com board, writer and readers have commented on couples, mistrust, and affairs. Various different types of affairs and affair types have been talked about. Cheating is one of the biggest forms of mistrust that a partner could ever commit in a relationship. Being cheated on and feeling the consequences of broken trust can be a very heartbreaking experience. Every person may react to this experience in a different way. Some people are devastated emotionally. Others become angry and some become withdrawn. During these times, some look for ways to get revenge and hurt their mate the way … Continue reading →

When a Friend Hits on You

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It is so exciting to have Courtney back writing! It is great fun for the two of us to get to relate to the articles and comments of one another. Recently Courtney has been discussing the sticky situations that friends can get into when they begin discussing relationships. She talks of telling friends that husbands are cheating and how to handle it when a friend’s husband flirts. I would like to take this situation into a little different direction. What happens when it is one of you and your mate’s mutual friends that flirts with you or propositions you with … Continue reading →

Dilemmas: Friends and Inappropriate Behaviors, Part 2

In Part 1, I wrote about some sticky situations friends might put us in (knowingly or unknowingly). Ones that can cause dilemmas when deciding how to handle them. I promised my answers for what I would do, so here they are. If a Friend Knew My Husband Was Cheating Ideally, I’d like to have my spouse make the confession. So if my husband was cheating and a friend knew, I’d like the friend to confront Wayne and encourage him to tell me. But if that didn’t happen, I’d want my friend to show me irrefutable proof. I would be the … Continue reading →

Dilemmas: Friends and Inappropriate Behavior

Once upon a time, that reader known as Jade “The Muse” Walker sent me a link to a story about someone’s friend having an affair. The friend’s dilemma: should she tell her friend’s husband about it or not? In addition to asking what I would do, Jade posed another interesting question. “If the situation was reversed, would you want to know?” Sticky Situations Because Jade sent this back when my mom had just moved in with us, I don’t recall everything the article said. (Lots has happened since then and the link is now inactive. I couldn’t reread the article … Continue reading →

Verbal Affairs

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The writers here at Families.com are wonderful at covering all of the different aspects of marriage. In those discusses, we have picked apart the topic of affairs on several occasions. We have discussed the affects of affairs, staying together after an affair, emotional affairs, mental affairs, and physical affairs. However I think that there may be one affair type that has been left out. Is there such a thing as a verbal affair? Can two people create too close of a bond with another through verbal means. I think that the answer is “yes”. Perhaps this type of affair is … Continue reading →